jojo500 Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Background: Dated on and off for 6 years; married not even 4 months. Had 4 or 5 break-ups, seen a counselor on and off, bought a house in August. The problem: He has a lack of interest in having sex with me. This was a problem years ago, but has returned and kills me inside when he rejects me or rarely iniatiates. This has been going on for probably 2 months and have had sex maybe 4 times since then. He has been on 100mg of Zoloft for years. We had a huge blow-out this morning when he rejected me, yet again. I am dying inside and let him know it. I have been verbally and (slightly) physically abusive in the past but have tried to move past this and have sought out counselling. He's no angel either as he is verbally and emotionally abusive. I love him and want nothing more than to build a life with him and have kids. This morning was bad and we have rarely spoken today (a rarity). I cannot see myself living a life like this--sexless with my husband constanly rejecting me. I am heartbroken. I told him this and his answer was, "Go ahead, divorce me." I know there is no chance of him having an affair. Please, I need advice as I can see this marriage being disolved. I can't live like this. We have a session with our counselor Tues.
Mr. Lucky Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 married not even 4 months. Had 4 or 5 break-ups, seen a counselor on and off Little late now, but didn't this history at least make you wonder? It's oft repeated here, but counselling has the potential to do wonders for your marriage at this stage. Much of your angst seems communication based and therefore easily addressed. Once you undestand why he does what he does and he understands how it makes you feel, things will get better. What is the history behind his Zoloft use and diagnosis? Mr. Lucky
Touche Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Hate to say it but...square peg, round hole. Don't have kids together. Your early history sure resonates with me and my ex. Even down to the on and off 6 years before we got married. Our marriage barely made it to the 3 year mark. I would be shocked if yours did. I'm so glad I FINALLY cut my losses and found a man where there was no drama...no on and off. Just love, fun and compatibility. Cut your losses, dear.
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