sumdude Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 Just curious.. when you remarried was it to another divorcee? Sometimes I get the feeling that two people who have been through it might have an easier time understanding each other at some level.
Touche Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 Well not to a "divorcee" since he's a man but yeah. Second marriage for both of us. Also the longest relationship for both of us. Just for background info, he was 40 when we were married and I was 33..we're together 14 years and married for 13. I think you're absolutely right. We learned some hard lessons from our first marriages. We're both kind of old-fashioned and we were determined to get it right the second time around. We did a LOT of talking before we got married to make sure we were really on the same page about all the "biggies" in life.
skinman Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 It was the second for both of us... you can see how that turned out Sumdude... so who knows .. I thought I had found the one I would die beside and be together forever........ I know there wont be a number 3 for me..........
PWSX3 Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 Someone suggested to me when two people get together that have been divorced "IF" they have worked on themselves & figured out how "they" could make a marriage better then things go a lot better. You will hear all kinds of stories & situations but I feel this might be a good suggestion.....
Mr. Lucky Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 Nope, second marriage for me, first for her. And I felt that having been married before was a liability for me as I really came into the relationship with my guard up. It takes a while to learn how to open up and trust again... Mr. Lucky
ReeWoo Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 First time it was both of our first marriages. Second time it was my 2nd and her first. This last time it was my 3rd and her first. Third time is the charm eh? I'd recommend finding a woman that is settled although I'm to the point that if a woman is over 30 and never married (or had a long term live in) that there is a reason . . .
dead-dyke Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 To hell w/ that. I'm not even risking it again. Once was enough of an eye opener for me. On a side note, the stats don't suggest good things. But as PWSX3 says, if two people know where they went wrong, and as touche said, if you're both on the same page, I don't see why it wouldn't work. It's entirely up to each individual to come forth w/ their best, YKWIM?
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