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What makes a husband stop showing affection toward his wife, and stop desiring intamacy?

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his attention being captured by another, most likely another woman.

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What makes a husband stop showing affection toward his wife, and stop desiring intamacy?

 

Maybe needs not being met and in the withdrawal stage.

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Could be stress, or boredom. That's what it's always been for me.

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It depends on the circumstance. I can only tell you from my own experience as a married guy for 16 years. Regardless, please remember this as much as it may hurt: GUYS ARE TURNED ON VISUALLY BY WHAT THEY SEE IN A WOMAN. Yes. It's not fair. But, it's a scientific and biological fact. That's what the population of humans is 6B and climbing.

 

Now, my situation. When I met my wife, I was not overly attracted to her. We were set up and met on a blind date. I would never have gone up to her at random and asked her out. Over time, I got to know her more as a person. And, started to look past the outside and look to the inside and believe within myself that I could CHANGE what I didn't like (i.e., her weight, hairstyle, etc.) THIS IS WHERE I MADE THE WORST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE. What I learned is that you can't change people. They have to change from the inside out on their own terms. You either have to accept them as they are or you have to move on. It's really that simple. Life is not fair and we should not be feeling sorry for ourselves or for others. I allowed myself to start feeling sorry for my wife and now WE ARE BOTH IN A MISERABLE MARRIAGE WITH NO EMOTIONAL OR PHYSICAL CONNECTION. Our common interest NOW is only debt and our child, whom we both love dearly.

 

Now, if I had done the right thing and been patient, I would have waited for the right woman to come along who put the sparkle in my eye. I am now a big believer that genuine physical attraction must exist first. Then, you work to put / find the other stuff (i.e., interests, religion, hobbies, desires, etc.). If you are lucky, everything will blend together nicely and you will have found your SOULMATE! I don't think many people actually end up meeting their SOULMATE. But, it's worthy goal. I know I will try to if I ever have the chance again! Good luck.

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