FindingMyselfAgain Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 The breakup happened 14 months ago. I assumed I'd find another, better-suited-for-me woman. I haven't. So for all you people thinking this passes, and life gets better, and you find your new love..... .....it doesn't.
DSM-IV Tom Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 Are you even trying? No reason to be so depressed. The world has at least 4 billion of the opposite sex, whether you're male or female. If you seriously can't find another, then wtf? Don't tell these people that it doesn't get better. It does. I don't like to talk about myself but I'm damn well going to, to counter the negativity you have put out.. My girlfriend broke up with me 6 weeks ago and I already have 2 other girls as well as her trying to date. Go meet some girls damn it.
Author FindingMyselfAgain Posted December 19, 2008 Author Posted December 19, 2008 Are you even trying? No reason to be so depressed. The world has at least 4 billion of the opposite sex, whether you're male or female. If you seriously can't find another, then wtf? Don't tell these people that it doesn't get better. It does. I don't like to talk about myself but I'm damn well going to, to counter the negativity you have put out.. My girlfriend broke up with me 6 weeks ago and I already have 2 other girls as well as her trying to date. Go meet some girls damn it. You look like you. I look like me. Maybe there's more hope for guys wot look like you than guys wot look like me.
DSM-IV Tom Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 I can see you in your avatar though I can see your body shape, your shoulder length, your heads shape, and your general appearance, and you're a good looking dude. It sounds like you are suffering from low self esteem. That's all. Because nothing is wrong with the way you look. Seriously. I'd tell you if there was. Ask anyone on these boards, if I ever hold back punches.
Author FindingMyselfAgain Posted December 19, 2008 Author Posted December 19, 2008 I can see you in your avatar though I can see your body shape, your shoulder length, your heads shape, and your general appearance, and you're a good looking dude. It sounds like you are suffering from low self esteem. That's all. Because nothing is wrong with the way you look. Seriously. I'd tell you if there was. Ask anyone on these boards, if I ever hold back punches. Thanks man. I might just be in a rare funk. I'm usually pretty spiritually fit, but working 100 hour weeks on TWO highpressure computer development jobs (getting two paychex is nice in this economy, but at what cost?) is probably getting me down. I don't look quite that trim and buffed any more. See the above paragraph. although it wouldn't be too much to get back to that. Maybe I shouldn't be this morose. I probably just need sleep. And maybe to not work so damned much! That's prolly why I ain't got no missus - potential missus - fling (choose one).
IcemanJB Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 Quit being such a downer, it's this sort of negativity that is probably holding you back. Just TRY to have a positive outlook for a week or so and watch what happens. I agree with DSM; there is nothing wrong with the way you look. Hell I'm a short 5'6" pale dude and the girls I've dated are hot. It's got very little to do with what you look like, and if she does put that much emphasis on looks, she's too shallow anyway! Now quit being a pansy and GET OUT THERE. Have fun! Don't take yourself so seriously.
Author FindingMyselfAgain Posted December 19, 2008 Author Posted December 19, 2008 Now quit being a pansy and GET OUT THERE. LOL, that cracked me up... thx
smiiiley Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 :(what if you are attractive and cang et guys to like you but your so in love with your ex? what if you dont meet some YOU like? you know sometimes not getting over a person is NOT about who YOU can get..its also about who can get YOU...but i hope when i reach 14 months i'm over this...the way i have started it doesn't seem like it...
Author FindingMyselfAgain Posted December 19, 2008 Author Posted December 19, 2008 :(what if you are attractive and cang et guys to like you but your so in love with your ex? what if you dont meet some YOU like? you know sometimes not getting over a person is NOT about who YOU can get..its also about who can get YOU...but i hope when i reach 14 months i'm over this...the way i have started it doesn't seem like it... Hey smily. It's not as bad as I initially made it out to be. See, I'm WAY over the ex. She was a Toxic Relationship for me. If she came back, I'd send her away. I can do better.... and in this case, having NO one is better than having her. So yeah, you do get over them, especially if they were so illsuited to you as mine was to me. I was just feeling bummed because I'm working until 11:pm again tonight only to get up by 5:am so I can get a buncha stuff done for these guys in NYC. Meanwhile I'm also co-owner of a rapidly expanding business. So I have NO TIME to meet a little cutey. And I was being all morose and self-pitying about that. However, yes, you DO get over the ex. And you get happy they are gone.
Author FindingMyselfAgain Posted December 19, 2008 Author Posted December 19, 2008 FindingMyselfAgain: How old are you? Physically, 44. Emotionally, somewhere between 44 and 12, depending on the day.
EmperorR Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 ah man it has nothing to do with looks, "hot" people get cheated on dumped deal with the pain just like other people. It doesn't matter your race, gender, sexual orientation, if your tall short, skinny fat etc., we all deal with heartbreak always wondering if we will find anyone better holding out hope etc.
IcemanJB Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 Well-said Emperor. If you have that sort of outlook, you never know what you'll be open to. Don't worry, my mental age is about 12 as well. You should see me in a snow-covered parking lot with my jeep. Actually, take a look at the weather forcast for southern Wisconsin tonight...guess what I'll be doing later!!! haha Hope is such a funny concept. You can sit around "hoping" all you want, but it will never get you anywhere. You can have hope, but you gotta act, more importantly.
DSM-IV Tom Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 Seems like your spirits are lifting a bit. Glad to see it. No reason you deserve to be sad. I'm straight, don't get me wrong here, but judging by your pic I thought you were only in your 20s. You have the looks covered, brother. You can find new love and you will. In fact I have a feeling that soon you are going to find a lot of it. So keep in mind that it's about finding the RIGHT one among the bunch, friend. Because most girls are crazy. *Disclaimer: None of the girls on THIS forum of course
audrey_1 Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 Because most girls are crazy. *Disclaimer: None of the girls on THIS forum of course LOL! Nice save...
Sexy Kitty Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 ah man it has nothing to do with looks, "hot" people get cheated on dumped deal with the pain just like other people. It doesn't matter your race, gender, sexual orientation, if your tall short, skinny fat etc., we all deal with heartbreak always wondering if we will find anyone better holding out hope etc. well said!
Isolde Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Many people are single for much longer than that and come through ok. Look around you.
IcemanJB Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 ^^^Very true. I was single from age 19 to 22 (!!!). Of course those were (are still) college years. Anyways, I honestly think I'd be OK being single for more than a year. As of right now, it wouldn't be fair to any girl I'd date because I'm not totally over my ex yet.
Author FindingMyselfAgain Posted December 20, 2008 Author Posted December 20, 2008 LOL, Kym. No, but I used to. I live in the wonderful city of Hotlanta, GA now. But if you kinda like me, tellya what: The distance can be shortened. It's why God invented planes, trains, and automobiles. Come to PlentyOfFish.com where my id is TheWorldIsMadeOutOfLove, or add me as a friend on Myspace, where my id is LarryBerry. (I might have to change the title of this thread to *MAYbe* there is hope after all.
IcemanJB Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Of course there is hope! Hey, if I were gay (and you were), I'd date you in a heartbeat. *crickets* awkwarddddd But for real, today is Saturday. Go to a bar (I know Hotlanta has good ones) and make it a goal to just talk to three good looking women. That's it. Don't even worry about getting numbers or anything.
Author FindingMyselfAgain Posted December 20, 2008 Author Posted December 20, 2008 Of course there is hope! Hey, if I were gay (and you were), I'd date you in a heartbeat. (grope) (hump hump hump) (just kidding man LOLZ) I don't do the Bar Thing. I'm a 12 stepper and that isn't safe ground for me. But hey. I'm startin' to get a little hope. Getting some feedback from some women, and even an alpaca llama in Peru who says she's hot for me. Not sure if the llama has a job though, so that one's off my list.
IcemanJB Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Have you tried sheep? Much better than llamas. lol... Start Yoga. On my way to class I always walk by a yoga class with huge windows...and wow, there are some hotties in there. I'm even considering it...
DSM-IV Tom Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 I second Iceman. Yoga is great. In fact I know someone who just lost his gf of 5 years and he signed up for Yoga (not for the women) and it has helped him tremendously. He HAS however told me there are some beautiful women there. That's always a plus. *Disclaimer: ALL women are beautiful in their uniqueness
Author FindingMyselfAgain Posted December 21, 2008 Author Posted December 21, 2008 Have you tried sheep? Much better than llamas. lol... Start Yoga. On my way to class I always walk by a yoga class with huge windows...and wow, there are some hotties in there. I'm even considering it... Are there any cute llamas in Yoga class?
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