BrokenSmile Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 I've known a guy know for 3 years over the internet. Since then we've really got to know eachother well, and became really flirty with eachother. Over the past 3 years I've started to really fall for him, but the problem is, he lives 4 hours away by car. I've met up with him twice (Ive gone up to see him) in the past 8 months, both times he's been really sweet, we were acting like we were going out - he payed for us to go to the movies, brought me lunch and he was the one initiating the hugs and the kisses. It was perfect, so sweet, romantic and my idea of a perfect guy! Of course, meeting up with him and being with him makes me fall for him even more. As he lives a long way away we don't see eachother much (as you have probably gathered). I may be moving nearer him (coninsidently) next fall to go to College, however he might be joining the forces. Since seeing him, he's had 2 girlfriends, but whenever we e-mail or instant message he always acts the same, still flirty etc even when he does have a girlfriend. I'm going to see him in 2 days, and hopefully staying over as it's winter vacation. We don't talk everyday, but when we do he's always so sweet, complimentative and keeps talking about how he's going to spoil me and be extra adorable to me when I do go and see him. I've told him my feelings - how much I like him, what I think of him and he says it's really sweet. As much as I like this guy, my friends have made me have doubts about him. They think that I'm his 'Plan B' and that he isn't really interested in me and just wants me for sex as he knows how much I like him. I always disagree, as he sometimes calls me 'his' but we've never really talked about a relationship and I don't really want to ask incase it's something I don't want to hear. I can understand why my friends think that, as some of the things I have mentioned may seem a bit 'sus' I just don't know what to do. What are your opinions on this? Is he using me or does he genuinly like me? Thanks, I'm so confused.
xpaperxcutx Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 During this past 3 years, what has stopped him from asking you out? Distance shouldn't be a problem if you can make it up in other areas such as calling each other or texting. I would be skeptical to chase after someone who knows I've had feelings for him for that long.
jason83 Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 Hate to say it but I would have to agree. Proceed with caution!
Ariadne Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 my friends have made me have doubts about him. They think that I'm his 'Plan B' and that he isn't really interested in me I´d say Plan Z is more like it.
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