D-Lish Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 I am on the verge of booking a flight to Florida from the 21st until the 27th. I'd be there alone over x-mas, just me and beach and the sunshine. My parents have a place In Ft Myers Beach- I checked out the weather and the next 10 days are brilliant. All it would cost me is airfare. This year I have dealt with so many losses... including my business and my loft and most recently a guy I really wanted to have things work out with. I don't want to deal with x-mas this year. I rarely want to deal with x-mas actually. When I first started dating my guy and things were going well, I actually put up a tree for myself. I am living downstairs in my parents basement apartment- and I actually decorated a bit. First time in a long time I have felt inclined to do so. After this recent break up/need for space, whatever you want to call it... I want to pick up and leave x-mas behind. X-mas dinner at my parents would see me as the lone single one... a house full of happy marriages and children running around. It's like a reminder that I should have those things and don't. Anyone ever picked up and just bolted over x-mas? DO you guys think this is a healthy choice, or an avoidance? I am looking at it as healthy. After such a bad year, I want to find my center. I don't want to celebrate x-mas... and I think some sun would be good. My mom is a little hurt... but I might not have the opportunity to do this again. The condo is available and free... But the clock is ticking- the flights are getting more expensive as I am waiting to book. Not sure what to do.
Lizzie60 Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 If I were you.. I would go... if you think that you won't feel lonely there on the beach all by yourself.. Sometimes, it's worst to be alone in a crowd.. I went down south once alone.. I had a great time.. (ha-hem)... but it wasn't during Xmas.. and I wasn't heartbroken or anything.. Go if you think it will make you feel better. Sometimes, being with friends and family is the best support you can get.
orangehose Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 Dude, Ft Myers?!? I'd go there in a heartbeat (weather sucks where I live). I don't see your choice as avoidance - just recognizing what would be best for you and acting upon it. Sure, if you were a saint or a robot, then all the happy perfect nuclear families surrounding you wouldn't stir even a tinge of resentment, but you're no robot. I know I wouldn't feel too chipper in the setting you describe. Do yourself a favor, and go down there! That's what I'd do... without a shred of guilt
Touche Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 Avoidance? Don't be silly, DLish. Go. If it would make you feel better you should go. You deserve it.
2sure Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 If you havent already booked flight...please hear me out. Years ago , before my daughter, I found myself alone for XMass, away from friends and family. I had planned it and had no problem with it. But when the day came - it sucked. Christmas eve, Christmas morning - alone - is just sad. I had not expected it to be as difficult as it was. And I am an independent kind of person.
Lizzie60 Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 I agree with 2sure.. there is a chance that it might make you feel more lonely... I know I need my friends and family when I hurt... Just make sure that it's what you really want.
Touche Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 Yeah, you know there are some good points being made here. I guess you have to decide which will make you feel better/worse, DLish. That should be the deciding factor.
jerbear Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 I say go! Sunshine and being out can help you get over a rough year.
Author D-Lish Posted December 19, 2008 Author Posted December 19, 2008 Thanks Lizzie, Thanks Orange... I do feel some guilt because my mom is a little upset. But I have always spent x-mas with them. I think they recognize I need a break form everything. What a draining year this has been. It's funny, initially- I was waiting to see if my guy and I would reconcile. Then it hit me- forget that!! Why would I stop my life to wait for this dude to make up his mind if he wants to hang with me at x-mas or not. I need to go ahead with my plans and my life as if it were any other day, dude or no dude in my life. If anything, by taking off for a week- he will have a chance to figure out if he misses me or not, and I can ponder the same. I think I have to stop living life for other people and look after myself for a change. I am THAT much closer to booking. Anyone know the bext sites to find cheap flights? I am using cheaptickets.ca and have found a return flight for under 300$ Canadian. I also do have friends down there as my family has had the condo for 15 years. I probably wouldn't be 100% alone. The beach rats always have something going on.
2sure Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 Okey Dokey Then! We use farecompare.com to find the best flight prices. We are in the northeast and use southwest for our flights to FL. Always cheapest. However - US Air has better last minute pricing
2sure Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 Wait Just a Minute!! Dogs too? Will you be taking them?
Author D-Lish Posted December 19, 2008 Author Posted December 19, 2008 If you havent already booked flight...please hear me out. Years ago , before my daughter, I found myself alone for XMass, away from friends and family. I had planned it and had no problem with it. But when the day came - it sucked. Christmas eve, Christmas morning - alone - is just sad. I had not expected it to be as difficult as it was. And I am an independent kind of person. 2Sure... I have felt alone and sad on x-mas day since my divorce 6 years ago. I Don't think I could stand another x-mas day with my aunts, uncles and cousins asking me why I am not married or how much of a shame it is I don't have kids. My parents have been home from Washington for about a week. We've spent time together- I've seen my bro and my nephews. As for my friends- this is the time when they go even deeper into being AWOL. They are all off spending times with their own familes. As the day approaches I just get more and more anxious. The thought of going away makes me feel excited. I've never done anything so bold. I don't mind being alone at all. With my anxiety- part of my limitation has been that I have never been spontaneous. Maybe doing such a thing as this would be liberating for me? The opportunity is available and I truly need space from the world I am existing in now. I have to do this quick though- the fares are getting higher...lol.
Jake Barnes Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 Its a good thing Ill be gone from Florida or I may have been tempted to seduce you
Author D-Lish Posted December 19, 2008 Author Posted December 19, 2008 Wait Just a Minute!! Dogs too? Will you be taking them? Nope... Parents are home from Washington!!!! They would be watching my dogs for me. Having the dogs has been a barrier to me travelling as well. It really does all work out. On a side note- I applied for a job as a Flight Attendant this morning and got a call for an interview immediately. The interviews are in the first week of January. I have an "in" with a friend who pilots for the airline. So when I put my resume in on Workopolis- he called his contact and told them to put me at the top of the pile. So- come January, I may be on my way to a new job endeavour as well. I've been learning conversational french with that Rosetta stone program... and also plan to pick up the spanish one as well. When I am on the beach, I can try and pick up the basics on two new languages that might help me with the job interview!!! Sun, Ipod, studying two new languages...lol. I can really make use of this vacation! It seems like the perfect time to travel. I might be a touch lonley being away... but I am feeling lonley where I am right now. I dunno... KMT might invite me for x-mas dinner.
Author D-Lish Posted December 19, 2008 Author Posted December 19, 2008 Its a good thing Ill be gone from Florida or I may have been tempted to seduce you That's too bad... the only people ever hanging around my parents pool are over 70.
Lovelybird Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 Alone and quiet time can allow you to sort out many things. And a bit of change also can give you new perspectives. maybe that will remind you the things you never take notice before but so important in your life. I think it is a good idea, plus sunshine and beach....
2sure Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 Go! You sound good. If it ends up you didnt like it...XMass alone one year didnt kill me. Great luck with the job interview, cant wait to see how it goes. When I was serial dating, I went on kind of a pilot binge - and that was fun!
Lizzie60 Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 Good for you.. one week is not the end of the world.. Who knows you might have the time of your life. Have a good trip.. and enjoy every second of it!
Jake Barnes Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 Who knows you might have the time of your life. In Ft Myers? Have you ever been there?
Author D-Lish Posted December 19, 2008 Author Posted December 19, 2008 In Ft Myers? Have you ever been there? Ft myers BEACH... My parents own a place on the beach there. ;-)
Author D-Lish Posted December 19, 2008 Author Posted December 19, 2008 Go! You sound good. If it ends up you didnt like it...XMass alone one year didnt kill me. Great luck with the job interview, cant wait to see how it goes. When I was serial dating, I went on kind of a pilot binge - and that was fun! Me too with the job thing... I think I need an x-mas alone. I'm an Atheist- i can do beach on X-mas... even though the one forcasted day of rain is on x-mas. Yes jake b...KMT is in FLA. **** people... my finggah is on the triggah.... do I book? I went upstairs and talked to my mom. She seems "alright", yet upset. She said she'll miss me, but gets "it". I'm booking. Doing it.
2sure Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 I've been to Fort Meyers a few times...its nice in a bring a book way. D is bringing her language cds so its perfect! And she will be all blonde and healthy tan looking for her interview.
jerbear Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 I'm booking. Doing it. Just do it! Click on that book it! button. Plug in the CC #! Just do it.
Author D-Lish Posted December 19, 2008 Author Posted December 19, 2008 I did it, I booked, December 21-27th.
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