carhill Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 It is interesting that the divorce rate shot up in our society at exactly the same time pre-marital sex became accepted. If it helps make better marriages, why didn't it go the other way? Like with cars, they're still improving the model, maybe Oh, and I re-read the OP. No way would I perform to that standard. Gotta give southpaw its daily exercise
Isolde Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 I would if it was someone I was compatible with in every way, including in a general sexual sense. In other words, if it was someone I would likely end up marrying, lol! I find this notion of test-driving rather unromantic; it could be cool to wait given that it was the right person. In all likelihood, though, I won't encounter this scenario.
Trialbyfire Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 I'm a "try before you buy" believer. There's no way I would marry anyone without knowing whether we're sexually compatible. This includes preferences and magnitude of drive. Can't imagine having to "beg" for sex from a partner. Having said all that, I have to strongly care about someone, before getting into a situation of physical intimacy. It's about intimate bonding for me, not just about getting off. Just another person wired differently here!
norajane Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 If you're really concerned with testing sex to ensure compatibility during marriage and it's not just an excuse to have sex, do you honestly only run the "test" with someone you're otherwise pretty sure you want to marry? Or do you test "early and often" with many partners whom you know in your heart you are unlikely to marry, maybe _years_ before you are even planning to get married? I mean seriously, if you're having sex on the 3rd date or whatever can you honestly say it's about determining compatibility for marriage? I don't understand these questions about "excuses" to have sex. Why do we need excuses? I don't have sex ONLY with people I'm considering for marriage. I have sex with people I have an intimate emotional and intellectual connection with and want to get closer and enjoy them in a physical way as well. It may have absolutely nothing to do with marriage. However, if I am in a relationship with someone I'd consider marrying, I absolutely need to know how we are together sexually and what kind of physical intimacy we are capable of achieving, or not.
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