JustSo Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 I just need to get this of my chest. The breakup was a long time ago, but it is still hard to let go. Right after the breakup I want some weeks LC with her but we were drawn again to eachother.. She just wanted to be friends.. and that wasn't enough for me and what followed was there were times of no contact and times of a lot of contact. Until I didn't hear from her for a month.. and I found someone new. When my ex heard about that, things started to get more and more complicated and she tried to kiss me. 'cause she broke up with me, all this was confusing for me and all I wanted was to be back together with my ex. So I broke up with the new girl and a couple of days later the ex told me that she can't have a relationship with me, because she needed her freedom.. It really felt like a hit in the face.. I thought I could deal with it and tried being just friends, and thought maybe she would change her mind in time.. but the more we talked.. the more she pushed me away. And she kept spending time with some guy.. and I know he is a much better match for her then me. The only thing I could do was... go NC on her.. and for some weeks it went good.. I remembered that she had a competition this last sunday.. and it was always in the back of my mind.. because I really want to support her and help her as a friend. But I just couldn't do it. I just kept the NC and I'm feeling really bad about it. Like I have let down a very good friend of mine. And I'm sure she hates me for doing this. I still can't bring myself to text a message to her, to ask how it went.. I know I have to protect myself from the pain it will cause.. but this feeling sucks too. I really lost her this time. plz tell me I did the right thing.
LiveandLearn Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 You did the right thing for you. Why inflict more pain on yourself to go support her? If she really knew you and isn't selfish, she'll understand why you didn't go. You were there in spirit Don't beat yourself over it.
Surfer Dude Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 You did absolutely the right thing. So she wants to be with you as long as you're with someone else, but once you sacrifice your relationship for her, she is suddenly busy with her new life? Come on, she obviously has huge problems with ego and need for attention. Ditch her forever. Otherwise, you'll need more tough lessons like this in order to learn your lesson about hope and friendship with exs.
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