suzie sweet Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 Been separated from my hubby for 3yrs going through divorce as now, have 1 child together who dote on each other, we have always bought for each other from our daughter for bithdays,christmas mother & fathers day etc. My partner of 1yr however is really annoyed at this and hitting the roof, which has made me bitter towards him. As i told him my daughter is only 6yrs so she cant go out on her own and buy for her daddy. How dare he come into my life and want to change what ive always done for my little girl, and at the end of the day the presents and cards have her name on not mine... What do you think xx
stillafool Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 I guess your partner is jealous of you out choosing gifts for your ex husband. I can understand both of your points. I would suggest you invite him to go shopping with you and your daughter for your ex. I also suggest getting him a gift certificate rather than choosing a gift for him. This way it won't seem so personal from your side.
BikerBeagle Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 Are you really doing it for your little girl? Let's face it, she's 6 years old ...she doesn't care about your birthday, his birthday, mother's day or father's day ...she cares about HER birthday and HER Christmas, that's it. Do you think you are teaching her the "joy of giving" or something? You can't really do that if the gift isn't her choice to give. I think it is admirable that you want to encourage each other in the life of your daughter, but giving each other presents on every special occasion (in the name of your daughter) is probably a bit much ...primarily because SHE IS 6 YEARS OLD and, as you said, she can't go out on her own and buy these things ...so why are either of you even expecting to get anything from her? Seriously, who are you fooling? As she ages, there is nothing wrong with giving her $10-$20 and taking her to the store to get her father something for whatever occasion ...this DOES teach the "joy of giving" and the value of money ...this is appropriate, but as long as you are picking out the present, paying for it, and wrapping it then the mere act of slapping her name on it doesn't negate the fact that it is coming from you (a fact I'm sure both of you realize). Be truthful, when you get a mother's day present from "your daughter", do you seriously believe it is coming from your daughter? ...I'd say, probably not. Sounds like you and your ex aren't quite over each other ...
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