me101 Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 HI , I have been broken up with my ex girl for four months now. Yesterday her best friend called me and just wanted to know how I was doing. I told her that I was doing fine and that I was happy. Now this would not be so strange if this girl liked me but she dose not. I see her on a weekly basis and she never speaks to me. She said that she missed me and my ex being togather but there was nothing she could do about it. In case you were wondering she is married and is not looking to go out with me or any thing like that. What do you guys think is going on here. Just a note the ex has had a new BF for over three months now. Thanks Me 101
BikerBeagle Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 Seems to me like the ex wanted to know how you were doing, so she asked her best friend to give you a call. Sometimes, the simplest answer is the right one. There is no reason to get all excited about this. Nothing to see here ...move along.
stillafool Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 I definitely think you ex misses you and asked her friend to call and feel you out. How long have you been broken up and do you want your ex back?
Author me101 Posted December 18, 2008 Author Posted December 18, 2008 We have been broken up for four months. I tryed to contact her a month ago and she emailed me back and told me to never call her or email her again. So I have done what she told me to do. I think I want her back but wanting some one back and dealing with what they did is two diffrent things. We were togather for seven years.
stillafool Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 Yeah she misses you. 7 years is a long time and I doubt she can forget about you in 4 months. She is ashamed to call you so she has her friend do it. I wouldn't call her if I were you because she told you not to. I would just wait it out and not give up any more info to her friend. Make her call you if she wants you. If you want her back start seeing other girls. She will come running back quickly.
Author me101 Posted December 18, 2008 Author Posted December 18, 2008 Ok well let me ask you this. I have told her friends that I have been dating other people and they have said she did not seem to care. Also her new bf is an ex of her former best friend. We broke up and a week later they were togather. Now she has a ton of picts of him and her kissing and making out on her myspace page and she has posted coments to him about getting married and things like that. What do you think about this.
stillafool Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 Wow! She seems confused. I don't think it's too nice that she is dating her friend's ex. How does her friend feel about it? Whatever the case, she is definitely still thinking about you and that is why her friend called you. I would tell her friend the next time you are dating a new person, not other people. It is more unsetting when you think your ex has settled on one person rather than playing the field. Your ex is confused and sounds like she is running in circles right now. Keep moving on as you have been doing.
Author me101 Posted December 19, 2008 Author Posted December 19, 2008 Her and his ex are no longer friends and I think that may be another reason why she is dating this guy. It really seemed like all hope was lost but now I am wondering if she is regretting it. I will make it plain to her friend that I have some one special and I will see where it takes me. I know that she is confused because her mom and dad just split because her dad has been cheating for years and it just came out a few months before the break up. Any more advice. Thanks
BikerBeagle Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 I'm not sure what you are wanting from this, me101. It seems to me like you are grasping for a straw of hope where there isn't any ...throwing out all kinds of details that mean absolutely nothing in the grand scheme of things ...using her friend as a means to skirt the rules of NC, regardless of who initiated it. She left you for another guy, has asked you to not call or email her, and "did not seem to care" if you are dating anyone ...those aren't behaviors of someone 'regretting' her decision. Your head is playing games with you.
Author me101 Posted December 22, 2008 Author Posted December 22, 2008 hi thanks for the reply and reality check. I just cant figure out how she was able to move on so fast. I acutually saw her twice today at church. It was not as bad as I though it would be. I still love her and seing her with some one else was tuff. However what dose not kill us really dose make us stronger. If any one is intrested in her reaction , there really was none. So I guess that it really is over. If anyone has a great story of getting back togather when all was lost I would love to hear it. Thanks to all.
stillafool Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 Is she bringing the new guy to church with her? If so it may be more serious than you think. Another thought though - when one has been in a 7 year relationship it is almost like be married. Things may get stale after a while. This new guy may have brought out passion in her she hasn't felt in a long time. After they have been together for a while (without her still having you to answer to) and 1st arguments occur, little things you never noticed or noticed before are starting to get on your nerves and last the sex may not be as hot as it was. Then you start to wonder what's going on with your ex. So she may still be with this guy but is very possibly thinking about you. I just think it is too strange that her friend would call you out of the blue like she did. I don't want to get your hopes up because it could just be that her friend was thinking about you. So don't raise your hopes of getting back with your ex and find someone else to date.
Author me101 Posted December 22, 2008 Author Posted December 22, 2008 When I do find someone else to date should I let the ex see me with her or not ?
stillafool Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 I don't see anythng wrong with inviting your new friend to church with you.
Author me101 Posted December 26, 2008 Author Posted December 26, 2008 Hi , how can I let her know that I still love her with out telling her ? And would making her jelous help at all ?
stillafool Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 Hello, Don't tell her or let her know you still love her unless she is expressing an interest (to you) to get back together. Her seeing you with someone else will definitely let you know if she still cares or not. I wouldn't try to make her jealous but go out, meet new girls and have fun.
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