aamber Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 It’s very rare my boyfriend and I will use the phone for actual chatting, sure we’ll call to make, settle plans, or ask a quick question -- but never do have actual conversations.. When we’re not seeing each other we tend to either text or use AIM. Neither of us are phone people. So just curious, does anyone else do this with their boyfriends/girlfriends?? When I see my friends it seems like they’re always on the phones with their boyfriends. Calling to much annoys me, when I was a teen I used to spend hours on the phone. I remember I had a boyfriend that called me every 30 minutes, he was just way to clingy and it was not a turn on… Giving each other a day going without not formally speaking to each other always makes things so much interesting when we’re actually together.
runner Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 when we're just getting to know one another, i tend to spend a bit more time than usual on the phone. but as relationship develops, i find little use for being on the phone so much. that and i'm just not a phone person.
SoulSearch_CO Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 I'm wondering if this is more tied to a personality, or level of attraction for me. With my ex, I wanted to be on the phone with him ALL THE TIME. I loved talking about anything and everything - no detail spared. LOL He loved being on the phone with me, too. For some reason, since we got divorced, I just really shy away from the phone. I can sit and talk to a guy for awhile, but I have like zero interest in doing the constant chatter that I did with my ex. Like I said, still deciding if this is attraction level or just a different person. I have no idea.
xpaperxcutx Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 I'm wondering if this is more tied to a personality, or level of attraction for me. With my ex, I wanted to be on the phone with him ALL THE TIME. I loved talking about anything and everything - no detail spared. LOL He loved being on the phone with me, too. For some reason, since we got divorced, I just really shy away from the phone. I can sit and talk to a guy for awhile, but I have like zero interest in doing the constant chatter that I did with my ex. Like I said, still deciding if this is attraction level or just a different person. I have no idea. I would think it's a little of both. Your ex made you felt extremely special, so talking to him on the phone always makes you happy.
prettybaby Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 I think it depends. If you happen to be with a phone shy person, then obviously, you'll spend less time on the phone. I've personally been with both types and have seen little to no correlation with the actual quality of our relationships.
lady_door Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 My bf and I almost never talk on the phone. We see each other about once a week cause we live in different cities and we usually talk online or through text every other day.
2sure Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 I hate talking on the phone. I prefer to IM or email. With my sister, etc. ok. I'm just not into the phone. I'm quick on the phone. My husband and for some reason, 90% of my previous boyfriends were all phone talkers. I couldnt stand it. I have to multi task, its just the way I am. I cant sit still. To focus on a telephone that long - even if I'm cleaning or something - I just cant.
runner Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 my biggest problem with too much phone chatter is that, when i'm speaking, some of what i'm trying to say comes through my body language or other non-verbal cues. i hate having to spell things out in plane literal terms just to avoid confusion. at least through IM i can use my writing skills and be more accurate with what i'm saying
EYECANDY000 Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 You say your not a phone person, but it seems like you have a problem with you two not engaging in conversation over the phone. have you tried just conversing with him about general stuff and then it leads to a conversation that neither one of you have ever talked about before?
PrincessPeach Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 Not to pigeon-hole any of us... but we are on an internet message board. I'd say it's likely most of us here would prefer 'text' forms of distance communication to 'verbal' ones. So I'm not surprised at the responses leaning toward that thus far. If it were the other way around we probably wouldn't be very active here and would instead be talking about it with people we knew (on phone, in person, etc). Some people are more comfortable with IM's or Text Messages than talking on the phone and I generally think the people here are more inclined to be those kinds of people. I don't think there is anything wrong with one way or the other. Communicate with your guy/girl however you like doing it.
Author aamber Posted December 18, 2008 Author Posted December 18, 2008 Ah. I'm glad I'm not alone on this one!! Even when it comes to friends & family, I'd so much rather send them a text message or a email.. Some of my family members get annoyed by the fact I don't call, and its not like i don't want to talk to them - phones just irk me.. I have no problem coming up with conversations, I can see about any object and have a conversation about it..
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