SadPanda Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 so, over a period of 5 weeks, 3 dates and a handful of get togethers. On the last date a few days ago, we had our first kiss on the 13th. (we're both in college, I'm 20, she's 18, now back home for winter and less than 1.5 miles apart ) So it's been 4 days, since then I've only seen her briefly yesterday for a few minutes in passing (she dropped off some baked christmas treats). I really don't think much of it because it's winter break and friends are all coming back, so we're both catching up with our own respective groups of friends. But...I'm curious about where we are at. But I've heard that girls don't really like it when a guy asks them "so what are we now?". I dunno. I mean I could just go with the flow, I'm not in a rush, but it'd be nice to know. so my question is, is how would you go about finding out where you are at with a person after the first kiss without just straight up asking? or maybe straigh up asking is the best course of action? Just wondering what people think. Thanks!
runner Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 i'd say go with the flow and don't make her (forcibly or coercively) spell it out for you. turn down the thinking and kiss her some more
carhill Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 so my question is, is how would you go about finding out where you are at with a person after the first kiss without just straight up asking? or maybe straight up asking is the best course of action? Just wondering what people think. Ask her out on a date again, once the "busy holiday period" is over. Meanwhile, stay in touch and listen for clues that she might want to break into the busy period to see you. Nothing wrong with a quick informal "hang-out".
movingonandon Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 After the first kiss the surest and shortest wey to the, you know..., bedroom, is the following: You invite her to your place, cook dinner for her, then watch a movie (which gives you an excuse to sit close on the couch and cuddle). Then, as the final credits roll out, and you roll in . Not sure if the early 20s girls have long enough attentionspan for this, but the above formula is rock solid for pretty much any woman who likes you.
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