IceIceBaby Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 For those of you in long term relationships, how long into the relationship was it when you met his or her parents? I've been with my boyfriend for three years. He's been over to my parents house many times, spent holidays with us, knows my entire family from parents to cousins to aunts. His parents live in another state. I met them once about two years ago when they were in town. The visit lasted about five minutes. Since then they've been back in town twice for long weekends and I wasn't asked to dinner or anything. I haven't been asked to go home with him to visit either. Is this weird? Or could it simply be the distance factor?
aamber Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 Why did it only last 5 minutes?? I think its kind of weird, especially since you've been seeing each other for 3 years.. Talk to him about it...
xpaperxcutx Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 I remember for most of the guys I dated, I met their parents right away. Especially with my ex, he introduced me to all his kooky friends and family. Did your bf ever told his parents that he's in a relationship?
2sure Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 Certainly there is a problem here. He is hiding a relationship. But maybe it is not his relationship with you he is hiding. Maybe he is hiding his parents from you?? After 3 years I'm sure you have asked him...what does he say? Does he have a good relationship with his parents? Could he be ashamed of them in some way? Maybe they interfere in his life and he doesnt want to give them opportunity? After 3 years, this should be talked about.
PrincessPeach Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 I'd say it's most likely a problem with his parents. He doesn't want them to know, not because of you, but because of how that information will affect the actions of his parents. Maybe they will try to be controlling of his relationship with you or maybe they will be overly critical (regardless of who you are). A lot of parents can create unnecessary drama in their children's relationships, even if they don't mean to. It might not make it any different for you, but they might be a lot dofferent around him in a way he doesn't want them to be. But definitely get his point of view on this if you haven't already.
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