kashmir Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 I meet a lot of girls...a lot of which have boyfriends, and then months later they break up and become single. Some of these girls I've always been attracted to, so naturally I'd like to make a move with them. Problem is, it seems really difficult to do this. It seems like if I move too fast they'll think, "Oh, so he just stuck around just to date me?" which is kinda true...but for the most part I'm not sticking around. I just know them as acquaintances, or maybe a bit more. For example, I just noticed on fb that this one girl I know has been single for a week or so. I really don't have a chance to move now, but come January when the new semester starts I'd like to try something. We don't really talk...just see each other, smile, and say hi. Sometimes she'll comment on something I'm doing...little stuff like that, but I don't really KNOW her. I'm wondering how guys can make moves on these girls without seeming like they've been sitting and waiting the entire time. I obviously haven't been sitting and waiting...I mean, this girl or others seemed cool, but I generally forgot about them since they had boyfriends, which is why I never really made an effort to talk to them. And don't say, "She needs time to get over her ex" or "She's looking for a rebound, don't pursue her" because I'm not looking for anything serious.
PrincessPeach Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 Why does it have to be different with these girls? Just invite them to go do something fun with you. Hang out together, haveing fun as just the two of you. When you would make a move normally, do it with this girl too. if something happens, it happens; and if not, then it doesn't. How is that different from any other girl you might be ineterested in? As long as you're comfortable/confident with what you're doing it shouldn't be a problem.
Charles1978 Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 Yep... no reason to change your approach
BCCA Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 Just be honest and real, and let fate do the rest. As long as youre upfront and say what you want, the worst thing that can happen is that you'll be in the same spot you are now. I would recomend something simple like asking them out on a Friday night for dinner or something casual. You'll never really KNOW her until you get a chance to spend some time with her, so don't waste your energy trying to concoct a foolproof plan to get a date, because one doesnt exist. Remember, she is just as lucky to spend some time with you as you are with her.
Perry Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 Why does it have to be different with these girls? Just invite them to go do something fun with you. Hang out together, haveing fun as just the two of you. When you would make a move normally, do it with this girl too. if something happens, it happens; and if not, then it doesn't. How is that different from any other girl you might be ineterested in? As long as you're comfortable/confident with what you're doing it shouldn't be a problem. There's really nothing more to be said.
movingonandon Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 she doesn't anything at all to get over her ex. Buy her a huge steak, then hit her with some wine, chocolate and good manners, and Bam! --> "I feel so comfortable with this guy! Perhaps I should make out with him? That'd show my ex!"
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