audrey_1 Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 So the last time I was over at the guy's house I just stopped seeing after a year, he was having computer trouble. It was something I could fix, so I told him I'd take a look. I stood up when it was on the login screen, so he could type in the password, but he told me to just type it in. He gave it to me. So I fix his computer. The next week, I found out he was seeing/sleeping with someone else (don't think she's on FB...yet), and even though our relationship was casual, decided the situation wasn't for me. We had a chat in person, and then basically ended things again over an email on Facebook. After I thought we were both going to do NC, he sends me an FB email asking for my address so he could send me a Christmas gift. WTF?!? So then I started thinking....hmmm, I wonder. Yep. His computer login was also the same password for Facebook. He didn't have many emails; he doesn't have that many friends, but a lot of them were between he and his ex that he SWORE up and down he was over. They had broken up RIGHT before we started seeing each other. He actually found me on myspace, and I hadn't seen him for nearly 20 years before all this began. Literally the day after he created his account, she created one, too. They had been on myspace, but he deleted his account. He was her first friend. Coincidence? I think not! And there was an email between he and another ex, as well. The last email between he and his recent ex, he asked for her number, so he could call to wish her a merry Christmas. He's been leaving photo comments about how good she looks now - you know, the usual bar photos with cleavage and smoke-filled air - and he reiterated her recent hotness in in his emails to her. He also had a couple of "fishing" emails with random hot chicks. Pretty funny stuff. Basically, this gave me closure in a HUGE way. I don't think I would ever have meant that much to him, or would just be added to his "collection." Ah Facebook...catch 22. Guess I just wonder if he's the type of person who can be "just friends" with an ex and be complimentary and flirty with no intent, or whether he's full of $hit when he said he didn't have feelings for her anymore. And why would he want to mail me a gift after our unhappy ending? For the love of Pete! (but that's not his real name )
Posco_Proudfoot Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 So then I started thinking....hmmm, I wonder. Yep. His computer login was also the same password for Facebook. He didn't have many emails; he doesn't have that many friends, Isn't this like stalking?
Author audrey_1 Posted December 17, 2008 Author Posted December 17, 2008 Yes, I'm sure some might view it that way. I only looked the one time, and I didn't feel badly afterward, as it confirmed suspicions I had been in denial over. There was no reason to keep lying to myself after that. I truly have no reason to look again. We had always kept our logins/online activity separate, so in a way, I think he wanted me to maybe try it, so I would be hurt and disappear. He wins!
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