Ladies Question - Sexual Rejection - Gross Out My Wife ??

[smceachern]

I've been a 100% clean and faithful husband and father while enduring extreme adultery, alcoholism, lebianism, drugs, etc - while my needs are rejected. See my this link for the history - http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t173307/

 

So after being constantly sexually denied while she can go screw other guys, blow her boss, and ride dildos with other women; several days ago I decided I would after 5 years (and since I don't own any porn) begin to start openly jerking off to porn on the internet prior to going to bed. My strategy is to show her how a healthy sex life is supposed to bond a couple in marriage, so I not only jerk off before bed, but I sent her links to the raunchiest stuff I could find so she'll think I am becoming totally demented by it and see maybe that if she puts out it'll be healthier for us than not.

 

So my question is ladies would you rather make love to your faithful husband, (the man who has always provided, never hit, never done drugs, and has three jobs while also being the primary caretaker to your children including the child thats not even his) or would you rather reject him while you continue your own alcoholic, drugs, screwing other guys plus lesbianism behaviour? To gross her out I just sent my wife a link to a video where two lesbians have anal sex with a dog including a cum enema into the other girls mouth after the dog ejaculates in the first girls bum.

 

I'd say I am a 7/10 as far as attractive, I have a professional career with three revenue streams plus teachers - all family members - staff of our church day care, etc tell me I am an amazing father, I've never been violent, I don't do drugs, I don't smoke, I haven't cheated, I have no criminal record, I've drank over 19 years about the amount my wife has in a single weekend. Why am I the biggest ******* that there ever there was just because I am sexually attracted to my wife and want a fun sex life like anyone else?

 

I am really angry, and if she wants to kill my esteem and hurt me through sexual rejection I am at the stage now where I am going to gross her the hell right out. She wants to lick other girls whenever she likes, fine! I am gonna send her videos of lesbians involved in scat and animals, etc and see how cool she thinks that is.

[AlektraClementine]

I did read your previous thread the other day but you are totally trying to be the martyr here. No one can ruin your self esteem but you.

 

That sentence about taking care of a kid that's not even yours makes my skin crawl. What a shameful thing to say about that child. You chose to do that. Saying things like that serves only to make you feel magnanimous (which you aren't) and to dishonor that poor child.

 

By sending her links to the raunchy porn, you are trying your hardest to attract this despicable woman. Not that I'm against the porn thing. My BF and I send each other porn all the time but it's for completely different motives.

 

You have stayed in this situation by your own choosing. Deal with it or get out but don't expect anyone to feel sorry for you.

 

 

I'm sorry, i try really hard not to be judgmental but in your case, I am failing miserably.

[Enema]

That's a terrible passive-aggressive strategy.

 

The whole thing is pathetic. Be a man and leave her.

[LucreziaBorgia]

What do you possibly hope to accomplish by staying with her?

[Ross PK]

It seems like maybe you're scared of leaving her because you don't like the idea of being alone or fear that you wont find someone else?

[stillafool]

I am a lady and of course I would rather have sex with a faithful, good husband than one who mirrors your wife. However, I'm curious as to why you are still married to her. You are obviously miserable and I doubt if your wife will ever change so why are you causing yourself such misery? You are not going to make your wife want to have sex with you by acting as foul as she does. It's what goes on in a woman's mind that makes her want sex. Stop lusting after someone who doesn't want you. Get a divorce and then look for the right woman for you. This woman will not change - at least not for you.

[stillafool]

Oh, and BTW I would get those kids out of that house and away from her ASAP! If you don't leave with those kids you are failing as a father.

[Andie_485]

I think you really need to divorce her. She doesn't seem fit to be a mother or a wife. It sounds like your wife has some very big issues mentally. And it sounds like she's someone who should have gone / should go to counseling.

[crazy4you]

Listen buddy, you seem like a nice guy but I gotta break it for you right now... you're not a man. Let me explain myself, I don't mean to be offensive.

 

I read your other post and this one and I tried putting myself in your shoes. WTF are you still doing with her? Me... I don't tolerate adultery of any sorts. If my wife wanted to do something with another woman it would have to be ok with me first. When I first read that you had PROOF that she was cheating on you (in video form) it was just beyond me. How can you still kiss this woman after her lips have been on another man's penis? It's really pathetic when you think about it. Listen, you're a nice guy but you're scared of being alone. Maybe you haven't been out there and dating for a long time so you don't want to risk it.

 

This is the best advice you will ever hear in your situation, and if you chose not to take this, you will be doomed to have to put up with an excuse for a wife. You have to end it. Get a lawyer and divorce her. If not for yourself, then do it for the kids. When you try to send her porn and stuff like that it just makes it seem like a feeble attempt at getting her to notice you. She has you by the balls buddy. Don't let a woman take advantage of your life like that. She doesn't even respect you enough to be loyal. I'm pretty sure a lot of people have lost respect for you because of this reason alone. You need to stand up for yourself. Don't worry, if you really are such a nice guy, you'll find someone a lot better in your life. Don't waste your life on her.

[carhill]

OP, I know you're soliciting input from the women regarding relations with your wife but I think individual psychological counseling will help you. IMO, your sense of reality has been altered by your experiences, and not in a healthy way. To me, you sound emotionally traumatized.

 

Your writings suggest you can afford some counseling. Are you willing to try?