dontbelikewerther Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 I don't think most people here are still at school, but you might still find yourself in the same situation at uni or at work. I see my ex every day at school. We're in different circles of friends and he's friends with LOADS of girls who are all gorgeous (I know that sounds impossible but it is sadly, sadly true). He's always touching them and laughing with them and today this girl who had broken her arm (hope she breaks the other one too) asked him in a flirty and pouty way if he could hold something for her and I see that kind of thing ALL THE TIME!!! It kills me, especially as I don't have many friends at school (or anywhere really), I don't go out, I don't meet new guys, I just sit around and wallow in my own abyss of patheticness and, more often than not, sexual frustration. I know he's not perfect (in fact, I'm quite aware of his many flaws) and we were only together a few months, but he's the only guy I've ever been with (I'm 19, how sad is that?) and he always was out of my league (again, I'm not exaggerating. He's very handsome but he's young and slightly self-conscious, so he doesn't get much attention and therefore found himself with someone like me. In five years he is going to be universally desired, and horrified at the thought of ever having touched me) and whenever I see him with other girls who are so clearly more attractive than me I just... GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGHHHHH!!!! He's single at the moment but I'm CONSTANTLY on tenderhooks, ready to discover that he's with someone new. It's exhausting. And although I know it's absurd, I really do feel like I'm the only person on the planet who has this feeling. So sharing of similar experiences and mutual comforting would be most helpful.
9Lives Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 WEll it is SHOWTIME You are going to have to become a good good actress. This is really important. You have be calm and wear your CALM FACE look. Try not to look at him at all. Focus on getting away from him as soon as possible. Just do everything you can to remain calm and keep distance. That is all you can do. I would have myself prepared for any encounters. I would have my whole act together so I dont crack under the pressure. YOu have to have a plan.
LiveandLearn Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 You are WAY too hard on yourself dontbelikewerther. There is nothing wrong with being with only one guy at 19. Hell, that's quite admirable. I don't know how many genuinely decent men would want to be with a woman that has been with every Jim, Joe, and Jack and their dogs. I know it's tough to stomach to see your ex with other women. They are no better than you. You give these girls too much credit. Love yourself. Respect yourself. You are a wonderful human being.
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