violentworld Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 Hey there, I've lurked around here a little bit but I can't say that I've found a solution to my problem. The major fault in every relationship I've been in has been keeping it afloat. Here is a quick run down on my current situation if you really care: Just like the beginning of all these sob stories, I met this girl during September/October when she was dating some guy who she had no attraction to. Her and I started to form a thing for each other and she eventually dropped the bomb on him. A week or so after that, we have been "lightly" dating for about two months (she considered it that, there was more going on to be honest). We decided to do this because of school and I promised her we would go out on our first "official" date when we're done (this date is on Friday by the way). You may be wondering what the problem is. Well, it was when I asked her out on this "official" date. Her reply was along the lines of "Yeah, so that way I can tell if I want to date you or not." It was something like that at least, with a hint of pessimism. When she said it, it sounded like she lost interest in me. Yesterday I talked to her and this date thing is still on so I don't think I'm fully screwed here. So, I would like some advice on how to bring back the interest she once had for me and how to maintain it at that level. This is probably the most important part of any relationship, as well as my biggest problem. Too long; didn't read version: Girl is starting to lose interest, how can I bring back the relationship? Also, how do you maintain a relationship (resuscitated and future ones)?
AlektraClementine Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 I'll bet that the pessimism as you read it was just sarcasm. Or at least in my opinion. I am very sarcastic by nature and that sounds like something I'd say. You should play off of that and retort with equal sarcasm. Let her know in a subtle and funny way that she's not the only one who stands to make up her mind about dating on Friday But the key, is waiting until the situation presents itself again. i.e. when you talk again specifically about the date. Good luck. And one more thing. You will ALWAYS have to perform maintenance on your relationships. There's no such thing as a relationship that stays afloat and stays interesting on it's own.
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