LovieDove24 Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 So I met this guy online about two months ago. We realized we had quite a bit in common and had our first date recently. It was one of the best first dates I've ever had. We didnt stop talking for hours and we ended the night at his house making out...and no, nothing more. I was very confident he'd call me within the next couple of days and he did. We talked for like an hour about life, work, Bush having a shoe thrown at his head:laugh::laugh:....lol Anyways, the next morning at work I sent him an email saying this: Me: So it is officially the coldest day EVER. And its such a Monday too. My daughter woke me up at 4:30, which is just ridiculous. Then my doors were frozen shut and I had to pour hot water to get em open. And then there was also this sad little feeling that I wished I was waking up next to a certain someone else...but hey at least I have my fabulous pink body pillow to snuggle with, gets me through! lol. His response: Your car certainly does give you a lot of trouble. I think you two need a trial seperation. And that body pillow can only last you for so long...you will NEED to see me again. Me again: HA you're funny. I definitely concur on both of those things. ***End of convo**** We both usually keep our converstaions casual and pretty jokey jokey. I know his response about "needing to see him again" was meant to be silly as well. But I finally thought I'd put myself out there and look where it got me? Havent heard from him in days now and we used to respond w/in a few hours of each other. I'm feeling pretty vulnerable and I wish I could eat my words. Did what I say sound like I was coming on way too strong or something? I feel like I'm twiddling my thumbs now over two sentences.
BikerBeagle Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 Sometimes you can't overthink these things. Maybe you should shoot him another email indicating when you might be available for a second date?
Author LovieDove24 Posted December 17, 2008 Author Posted December 17, 2008 I dunno about emailing him again. I'm kind of a give-and-take kinda gal and I think he's up next.
2sure Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 It is quite possible that after having spent hours talking on the date, then talking on the phone for so long, then getting the email about every day stuff... That although he participated, he feels suddenly like all is too familiar, too close, too whatever ...I cant think of the proper verbiage. I get like this. All you need to do is nothing...at ...all. He has your number and your email even if he overlooked your last message. He will call or he wont...but dont call him.
Author LovieDove24 Posted December 17, 2008 Author Posted December 17, 2008 Thanks 2sure, I needed that. All the 'talking' and being too familiar makes a lot of sense actually. Now that I read it again I feel a little silly for taking it so personally! I have to admit I DO hate it when the roles are reversed and all I want is a few "me" days but the guy keeps calling or texting like 5 times a day. Creepy. I don't believe I've crossed that line yet, but its probably best to stay put. I think the only trouble arose from the fact that I was the last one to make contact. Feeling like I'm waiting around on someone is NOT a position I find myself in very often and I dont like it! On top of all that, since I've had my daughter my lack of patience has really sprung to my attention. Its something I have about 2 cents of and not a penny more!
EYECANDY000 Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 I think you are thinking more into your comment than whats really there. If thats how the email went verbatim then you werent putting yourself out there. It was in a joking way. I would wait and see if he contactas you. If not, then oh well for him
2sure Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 I have something to share thats kind of funny. I offer it because in my past I was in a position much like your own. I was a single mom, struggling with all the issues that came with not having a partner, a hum drum job, yada, yada. When I started dating again it was such a nice repreive from all of my day to day issues. It was so much fun that when I met a guy I liked , I really enjoyed the conversation. It was a great break from baby talk, office chit chat, and paying bills. It was so much fun that I was very enthusiastic. I was fun, charming, not overly accomodating and not even necessarily particularly attracted to the guys....but I was very enthusiastic just to have the conversation and outlet. Looking back, I think one or two were like: She is pretty, smart, and fun....but why so enthusiastic?? I think they became suspicious of my interest in them, although it wasnt really them in particular that I was interested in. Get it?
diggy Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 Hmm, cant say much about that, ive been in many of those situations myself. The best is either to confront him about it and accept whatever comes of it even if it means it will not work, or to accept that you are going to wait for him to contact you. For all you know he might have been in an accident and is laying in hospital. Maybe its the fact that you have a daughter, does he know about this, does he have a problem with it? Maybe that is a problem that he does not see a future with you, Ive had that situation. Good luck!
Author LovieDove24 Posted December 17, 2008 Author Posted December 17, 2008 She is pretty, smart, and fun....but why so enthusiastic?? I think they became suspicious of my interest in them, although it wasnt really them in particular that I was interested in. Get it? Ha, totally. This is so true! I do really enjoy the back and forth of having flirty conversation...its a much needed break from stressful reality! And yes, I feel like all the guys could be kinda interchangeable its not really 'them' in particular. Once again its nice to hear your been there done that stories! Oh and btw...he emailed me like an hour ago. Now I really feel silly. I think I was more worried about missing my 'adult' outlet more than anything!
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