alphamale Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 OMG so i had to document this before i forgot the dream.... I dated this beautiful woman from Nov-April for six months. We had known each other as very casual friends for a few years before we started dating. I thought she was the one for a while. She wanted to get married and have a kid badly since her bio clock was ticking very loudly. I left her after she started to try to dominate me (she was a well educated professional with a huge house and good job and extremely attactive). When we started dating I told her i could never be dominated by a woman or i would split, which is what i did. Anyways to the dream part. We were on a tropical island with other partners and i was trying to woo her. At some point we were both flying in a small plane together. I was acting all goofy to get her back but she resisted every time till the last. I told her i was sorry about breaking up with her. At the very end she relented and i got her back and she presented me with this baby around 6 months old who i then proceeded to hold in my arms. The baby started telling me dirty jokes in the voice of the devil from The Exorcist and i thought "hmm, thats strange..." Eight months later i'm still dreaming of this woman. Maybe i made the wrong decision but had i stayed with her it would have eventually led to marriage & kid(s) and i didn't know if i wanted that...
persistant Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 Alphie, is your concious getting to you? You may have given up the ONE because of your own pride and ego.
JooLee Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 nah, its just a dream. sometimes dreams have no meaning. or maybe its just your yearning of wanting something more in life.
Author alphamale Posted December 17, 2008 Author Posted December 17, 2008 Alphie, is your concious getting to you? You may have given up the ONE because of your own pride and ego. could be...do you think the baby represents my guilt? and why was it telling me dirty jokes in the voice of the devil?
Author alphamale Posted December 17, 2008 Author Posted December 17, 2008 nah, its just a dream. sometimes dreams have no meaning... i would tend to agree but i think this one was telling me something. she has been on my mind lately cause of the holidays and both of us had such a wonderful xmas and new years a year ago...
melodymatters Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 Well Gee Alpha, it sounds like there wasn't anything too terrible in this relationship. What does ' try to dominate you" mean to you ? I'm assertive and very 50/50. Are you looking for old fashioned demure or what ? Anyway, yes, I think the dream shows that you still have some conflicted feeling. Why the baby was a dirty joke telling little devil ? Probably so you would know it was YOURS ! LOL So, how DO you feel about marriage and children at this point in your life ?
Trialbyfire Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 Maybe i made the wrong decision but had i stayed with her it would have eventually led to marriage & kid(s) and i didn't know if i wanted that... If you weren't ready for marriage and kids, then it was probably best that the two of you split. Maybe you're wishing for commitment now, so you're dreaming about someone who represents it to you? Maybe your perception of being tied down, married with children, is encapsuled by the "evil voice" of the baby. I dunno.
Author alphamale Posted December 17, 2008 Author Posted December 17, 2008 Well Gee Alpha, it sounds like there wasn't anything too terrible in this relationship. overall it was pretty good but she was all about gettin' married and having a kid right away...i guess i panicked What does ' try to dominate you" mean to you ? I'm assertive and very 50/50. as a friend she was very nice and demure but as a lover she became more assertive and possessive and bossy...basically "her way or the highway" stuff Why the baby was a dirty joke telling little devil ? Probably so you would know it was YOURS ! LOL So, how DO you feel about marriage and children at this point in your life ? not really into it but never say never If you weren't ready for marriage and kids, then it was probably best that the two of you split. i guess you're right TBF but it was the way i left her that makes me feel guilty...we were making long term plans together but as i got to know her better the less i wanted to be part of those plans...who knows??
Trialbyfire Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 As someone who shifted from being a relationship person to being relationship-averse, I kind of understand where you're coming from. We're all a product of our experiences but we each need to address our issues in our own time and in our own way. As long as you're happy in the current state you're in, then who's to say it's a bad thing. On the otherhand, if you're unhappy with your state, then it's time to do something about it. Are you happy alpha?
Author alphamale Posted December 17, 2008 Author Posted December 17, 2008 Are you happy alpha? very much so
Trialbyfire Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 very much so Then you'll be fine. As long as you have no regrets, it's all good.
melodymatters Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 Wow ! problem solved in 11 posts ! ...NEXT.......
2sure Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 In my dreams I always lose things like keys , cars, my purse. Very symbolic of the scavenger hunt that is my life. Nothing deep, Im just unorganized. Take it at face value Any offspring born of this union would not have been...demonic? funny?
Trialbyfire Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 Wow ! problem solved in 11 posts ! ...NEXT....... Okay, okay, remind me not to enable anyone again.
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