Whitefox123 Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 [sIZE=2][sIZE=2] So my ex and I ended our relationship about 6 months ago. As you can see by previous posts there was a lot of “go away”……”come back” situations. I know there were times where we both did stupid things, I can’t blame him for everything….but we have had way too many highs and lows and I realize it is my fault for letting things carry on for as long as they did. Part of the reason I did was because we had all of our classes together, also I thought that maybe just one of the times when he wanted me….we would become a couple again…..and also because my friend describes me as an ‘idealist” I don’t always want to see things for what they are….and I want to believe that people or situations can change. I just call myself stupid….. But ANYWAY So last week, we took a final exam and then we parted ways. It was one of the hardest things I had to do. For one, because of just all the drama that went down during the semester….and two because I didn’t know when I was going to see him again. (I made my schedule for next semester….total opposite of his…..he switched one of his classes to be with me….I felt this was unnecessary so I switched out, without telling him….) NOW, at the same time I was crying and all I was thinking is “wow….I’m free….I can start fresh….I am free…..” but yet it was so hard to say goodbye to all of the old (good) memories him and I had made in our almost 3 years together. Well come to find out over the weekend he decided to go NC on me……which was odd because we didn’t really part ways on a bad note or anything. Well after a few days of it bugging me, I messaged him and I asked what I did basically and it launched into a huge fight. I guess his sister is trying to tell him he’s stupid for everything that he’s put me through….and that I’m such a good girl….and he thinks that I’m telling her to say all this. THEN he says it doesn’t matter anyway because I have my friends (who I lost contact with when I was with him because I was in love and I thought that’s what was supposed to happen….) and my coworkers….and a guy friend that I have a crush on, but wont do anything with. (Ex just found out about him on Thursday as well) Then he continues to tell me that I am in the wrong because I wanted to get him off my cell phone plan and because I thought about switching my major. So that must mean I don’t care about him at all as a person right? And he basically gave me hell for wanting to put some closure on our past. Our conversation ended with him telling me he wont see me until school starts up again in about a month (which now he probably wont…) and to have a merry xmas. I should be happy about this right? I mean, he has put me through some serious B.S. and I can possibly be free of that right??? Yet….why do I feel sad and guilty all at the same time? I mean I’m not moping around the house or anything, but I defiantly feel some sadness. And for some reason when we were chatting he kept asking me if I was crying…. But my question is: Has anyone ever been in this situation…..where you KNOW its time to let go….What do you do? I mean, I know it’s time….I’ve tried and tried and tried….and I’m just hurting myself in the end….I know this….I don’t want to hurt anymore…..but is it supposed to be this hard to walk away from?? How long does this process normally take?? Any tips or stories would be appreciated…..thank you. [/sIZE] [/sIZE]
BikerBeagle Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 But my question is: Has anyone ever been in this situation…..where you KNOW its time to let go….What do you do? You let go. It's a choice ...a hard choice, certainly, but a choice you have to make nonetheless. I mean, I know it’s time….I’ve tried and tried and tried….and I’m just hurting myself in the end….I know this….I don’t want to hurt anymore…..but is it supposed to be this hard to walk away from?? No one ever said it would be easy ...but it does get easier over time. How long does this process normally take?? Different strokes for different folks. My guess is, for you, longer than a month, so I'd expect that you will still be feeling much the same way - although maybe a little better - when you see him again once school starts back up.
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