"Why Men Love B*tches"

[Euphoric]

Hey Guys!

New to this site.

Has any woman read the book "Why Men Love B*tches"??

I really enjoyed it, however- I'm completely not doing the "right thing", with dating.

 

Here’s my stats to better explain myself-

I am 22, a female, I live CA, I get told a lot that I am attractive, and have a very social personality.

I met a guy, while working at a Jamba Juice.

He would come in frequently. He has children, and brought them in one or twice. (His stats- He's 34, has an 11 yr and 9 yr, divorced. Ex lives across the country, with his kids. He gets them every summer/Christmas break).

I was always super nice to him, and remembered him well; even though we had a million people come in and out of that place.

Any who- I found out that he is a Dr. (a chiropractor). It didn’t really change the way I saw him, because I stopped working at the JJ, and I didn’t see him for months.

I ran into him at a bar on a Friday night.

I was pretty buzzed. I remember catching him on his way walking past him, and saying”Hey! How are you, etc...? How are your kids..?They back in NY, etc". I then told him I needed to come and see him and get adjusted (wtf? I have no idea- I was drunk). So I asked from his business card, he didn’t have one/either did I, so he put my number in his phone.

He texted me about an hour later, and reminded me of who he was, with a casual "hey" text.

I drunk texted him back, and ended up deleting my texts, so I have no clue what was said. (I believe it was pretty brief though).

 

Days go on- I texted him- and asked for an appt. He texted back to me, adding lots of smiley faces, etc.

About a week passes, and texts are brief, but- I usually started them.

One night he randomly texted me, and we had a text convo for about an hour. Toward the end, I asked if he wanted to give me a call. (It was late) so he said he wanted to get some sleep but would call me over the weekend. (This was a Thurs).

Sunday afternoon, he randomly texted me and told me he was at a football game, with his family who flew in for the day, just to see that game.. (He still uses lots of smiley faces.)

Yesterday, I, once again, texted him, and asked him for his mailing address- we continued to text.

He asked me if I wanted to go to a local rest/bar.

I told him that I was shopping- it might be a bit, asked him if he was going to be there a bit, and told him I would call him when I was done. I called him about an hour later, (first time ever on the phone), told him I was in the area, and I would stop by. I did. He was there alone, waiting for me. It was great. We laughed a lot, and he talked a lot.

Everything seems good. We stayed for about an hour, then it closed, and he walked me out to my car.

About 30 mins later, he texted me and told me he had nice time, it was great to see me, and also to remind him to tell me a funny story next time we hang out..

I didn’t text back.

This morning, I texted him randomly, small talk.

(Generally our random texts are something we are doing) Ex: I told him I was starving and an ice cube.

He laughed and texted back.

 

So... the reason I am writing on here, is because I know I’m being too-available. But, if it seems comfortable, is it okay? What does it mean when a guy texts you after seeing you/date? When should you text/call him? Etc..

 

Suggestions anyone?

[allina]

A 22 year old woman and a 34 year old father of a 11 and 9 year old? My thing is, if you're closer to his kid's age than to his it's probably a bad idea. He might not take you seriously. He might just think of you as the cute chick from Jamba Juice that he likes to flirt with.

 

I'd say give it a break, at least till he actually calls you and asks you out on a dignified date.

[Perry]

What's wrong with being too available?

 

If he is interested, he could care less. In fact, he wants to you be..."too available." That is, if he is a mature guy with a brain.

 

Switch roles here for a second. What if he was too available? Would that bother you? Of course not.

 

Who knows what it means when he texed you you after seeing you?

Maybe he likes you. Maybe he is being polite. Maybe....

 

When should you text/call him? Anytime you want. Call him the next day, if you want.

 

Remember, if he likes you, he wants you to.

 

Don't make this complicated. It ain't.

 

 

Perry

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[Mahatma]

First of all...

 

Guys who use smiley faces in instant messaging or text messaging have problems.

 

Second: Guys love b*tches. Men love women. My girlfriend is so far from a b*tch and I appreciate that she does not take Cosmo's word. B*tchy girls do attract a lot of guys, but you need to figure out if that is the type of guy you wish to attract.

 

Do NOT play the stupid dating games unless you want your date to play them with you too. Leave this stuff to junior high.

[prettybaby]

If you don't wanna be considered a cute flirt on the side: stop texting random crap and get straight to the point. Ask him out for dinner. You don't even have to ask it flat out, just ask what he's doing - say, on Friday evening - and tell him if he wants, he can join you for dinner at (enter name of restaurant here).

 

 

1. It shows that you have a life of your own, and that whether he comes or not, you'll be treating yourself to a nice dinner, and are making him a favor by asking to join
   
2. It's a first solid step if you wanna start dating. If it goes well, he'll ask you out again and you can keep the ball rolling from there
   
3. It's the most efficient way you'll get to know him. Random texts will not tell you anything precise about his life, except for whatever random crap he's doing at the moment. You don't even know what his goals are. Is he even looking to date anybody? Is he even dating / relationship material?
   

 

I wouldn't waste any more time endlessly flirting through texts without setting up clear plans. It's pointless and not constructive at all. I personally couldn't be bothered.

 

And yeah, guys who over-use smileys in their texts are weird

And no, men don't love b*tches. Only guys who aren't worth your time to begin with.