Double D Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 Hi People! I have started a new course at college (mature student) in September. There is a woman in my class who I like. Since we started in September I have noticed that we have been getting on really well and seem to share more inside jokes than anyone else in our class. 2 weeks ago I decided to tell her I like her and just wanted her to think about it. I didnt want to ask her out. Just wanted to keep it simple without any pressure. A couple days later she tells me 'we should be friends for the mo. I really like you as a friend' I thought fair enough at least I gave it ago. A few days after that she phones and asks me to come with her to a sports shop to get her friend a pressie (I support the same team as her friend) A week later she asks me to come with her to get her dog's haircut (I know random) I go with her. Buy her breakfast and have our first face to face conversation. It was cool. Just chilled. All between this she laughs at my goofyness. Looks at me when im not looking. Brushes her leg on mine when we are sitting together but at the same time when I text her she sometimes texts back. Being around her though, not sure i she is a text person. Not sure how to take this. Very confusing. If you need anymore details just ask. Any advice would be great. Thanks People!
prettybaby Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 It was a mistake to expose your feelings so early on. That approach has never worked for anyone as far as I know. She has the upper hand now and it doesn't sound like she really knows what she wants yet. I think she's mainly enjoying the ego boost at the moment. I think feelings should only be proclaimed once you've become intimate with someone and that the relationship is clearly established. That being said, I would no longer agree to every meeting she offers. Say you're busy and ask which other day suits her, for example. You don't want to be just friends, so don't put yourself in the friend position (I mean, unless you really don't mind either way).
Author Double D Posted December 17, 2008 Author Posted December 17, 2008 Thanks! I guess I want to spend some time with her to get to know her better and vice versa. I agree I get the feeling she is kinda milking it but if a woman doesnt like a guy 'like that' she tends to make it pretty clear doesnt she. Thats the impression ive got from previous rejections. Just havent had this situation when a woman knows I like her and she hasnt been defintive yet, yet wants to spend time with me. She has intitated meetings.
inloveforeverwithyou Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 I agree with prettybaby, very bold of you to just come out with your feelings, but I completely understand I've done it before too. You should probably just take a step back for a little bit. Maybe find another girl. But thats just my opinion and I know that doing what I just said is much harder than saying it. But you dont want to get hurt.
Author Double D Posted December 17, 2008 Author Posted December 17, 2008 Im not in love with her or anything. Just like her. Think she's attractive, funny, strong and very interesting. Just thought f it lets put myself out there. Guess I dont know what my next play should be. If I take a step back she may think im not interested anymore but if i go ott she may think im needy or desparate and since woman tend not to pursue I can accept doing it. I guess I need something to work with, which she is giving me through body language and stuff but yet she came out with 'friends for the mo' what does that mean. If woman didnt 'like a guy' she wouldnt want to spend time with him - would he? Yet how do i know if she likes me as she has said one way or the other.
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