Monobeat Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 I am 29, we got together when we where 19.... I've tried doing everything to "change" myself. I can't. I am an electronic musician/ DJ and perform every weekend, and this line of work requires much energy put into writing music, socializing with people, performing all weekend, and pushing myself constantly... In the meantime, my girlfriend sits on the sidelines being very sad and wishing I would slow down and spend time with her. I love her so much and we've been through it all together. I can't see her get hurt anymore... She just moved out to a new apartment, but we are still together and in limbo mode... I know after all these years, the time has come to spend time apart. I've read everything online, taken advice, but I need someone who's been through ending this. After we break up, she will still have to be part of my family because we are soooooo intertwined in the community here. Any advice is appreciated.
DSM-IV Tom Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 What are you looking for advice wise? Is there nothing you can do to change? First and foremost, you should expect to hear the question "Is work more important than your relationship". What is your reaction to this? Why can you not make more time for her?
CaliGuy Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 I am 29, we got together when we where 19.... I've tried doing everything to "change" myself. I can't. I am an electronic musician/ DJ and perform every weekend, and this line of work requires much energy put into writing music, socializing with people, performing all weekend, and pushing myself constantly... In the meantime, my girlfriend sits on the sidelines being very sad and wishing I would slow down and spend time with her. I love her so much and we've been through it all together. I can't see her get hurt anymore... She just moved out to a new apartment, but we are still together and in limbo mode... I know after all these years, the time has come to spend time apart. I've read everything online, taken advice, but I need someone who's been through ending this. After we break up, she will still have to be part of my family because we are soooooo intertwined in the community here. Any advice is appreciated. 10 years together and you can't make her a priority? You won't marry her? Frankly, I don't blame her... You CAN get your life together and make her a priority. You just won't and have no one to blame but yourself.
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