This guy is married - does it sound like he's trying to impress another woman?

[questions27]

A married man constantly flirts with a woman at work, acting infatuated – he stares at her, acts embarrassed when she catches him, acts nervous when she’s around (even though he’s outgoing), compliments her, touches her arm or shoulder when teasing her (which he said he “loves” to do), keeps shooting her suggestive glances even when he’s out with his wife (and right in front of her), starts conversations with the woman even when she’s just walking by his office,etc.

 

Then his wife shows up with their baby one afternoon –he’s holding his child, kissing him and staring at the woman over his wife’s shoulder. Then everyone goes to play with the baby in his office except for the woman – she walks by, he stops paying attention to the baby, looks at her, and smiles trying to say hi.

 

Another day, he was leaving early and started giving her all kinds of details saying he had to go home and watch his child, looked disappointed that his wife had to work and he had to leave, and gave the woman a lot of details she never asked for (like his parents usually watch him but he didn’t want to ask, etc. ) - and he’s in a much higher position than the woman.

 

Then, she had invited the whole office to a party and he wrote back to apologize profusely and say he couldn’t make it b/c he had “Mr. Mom” duties after work that night… whereas the other people in his position in the office never even replied to the invitation (it is corporate America after all – ranking is huge!). The woman is also pregnant right now.

 

What is he doing? What is he trying to show her?

[JackJack]

You know all of this how? Are you by chance the woman he is flirting with?

[Lizzie60]

is this 'her' you?

[questions27]

What difference does it make? The man's behavior is still the same, and so are his reasons - that's what I'm interested in.

[Lizzie60]

What difference does it make? The man's behavior is still the same, and so are his reasons - that's what I'm interested in.

 

who knows his reasons? maybe you should ask HIM...

[questions27]

Oh give me a break.... why are you posting on a relationship advice forum if you're going to tell people they should ask whomever they're talking about?

 

I had heard good things about this site - first impressions are not so great, but I'll keep trying!

[JackJack]

This is a good site for advice, however you will get people who ask you questions for various reasons and mean no harm in asking. Sometimes in order to give out advice or try to, people will ask questions for more info on things to be able to help.

 

You're right it matters not if its you or not. Also someone gave you advice on asking the guy, and you have already slammed that advice so hopefully someone else will have something you like better to hear.

[Geishawhelk]

Pose obtuse questions, you'll get obtuse replies.

if this isn't a "you" and "him" situation, it's none of your darned business what they're doing.

Whatever they're doing is up to them, and unless it affects your work position, ignore it.

Let them stew in their own juice.

If this is something that does concern you - then be honest and upfront, and you'll be far more likely to receive more constructive feedback.

That's why we're asking!

 

[EnigmasMuse]

My advice is, it's highly possible he is flirting, and possibly sending out mixed signals to whoever that woman might be. If it were me, and a guy was married, and was flirting like that and making things known, that would be a red flag for me to stay away from the loser.