FleshNBones Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 I am still single. It was always that way. I am another year older, and the option of having a family of my own is slowly slipping away. I know my parent will pressure me to marry and settle down. They are going to yell at me for not earning $100k+ a year so I can provide for the family I don't have, or buy a big empty house.
oneofakind Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 Don't let society pressure you...get ready when you are ready. I'm 22 (about to be 23) and have spent the majority of my Christmas holidays single. I know I'm still young, but I wish society would stop ostricizing people if they're not married by a certain age. To be honest, I think that's part of the reason why about 50% of marriages end in divorce...b/c of the pressure to settle down so much. If people weren't as pressured to marry thesedays, people would more likely wait for a decent man instead of settling for someone that they'll be miserable with.
oneofakind Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 I am still single. It was always that way. I am another year older, and the option of having a family of my own is slowly slipping away. I know my parent will pressure me to marry and settle down. They are going to yell at me for not earning $100k+ a year so I can provide for the family I don't have, or buy a big empty house. Don't let society pressure you...get married when you are ready. Even if you can't have children by the time you get married, there's always the option of adoption if you do want kids. I'm 22 (about to be 23) and have spent the majority of my Christmas holidays single. I know I'm still young, but I wish society would stop ostracizing people if they're not married by a certain age. To be honest, I think that's part of the reason why about 50% of marriages end in divorce...b/c of the pressure to settle down so much. If people weren't as pressured to marry these days, people would more likely wait for a decent man instead of settling for someone that they'll be miserable with. p.s. Sorry for posting twice...I was trying to edit my post, but for some reason, my revised post posted as another post,lol.
sid3 Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 Not single this Xmas. Infact Christmas came early this year. I must have been really good this year, I got just what I was hoping for, a really sweet girl :)with a smoking hot body:).......actually, it had nothing to do with being good. I didn't worry about rejection and went after what I wanted. Being single on xmas past never bothered me, it's being single on Vday that truly sucks.
FleshNBones Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 I'm 22 (about to be 23) and have spent the majority of my Christmas holidays single. I know I'm still young, but I wish society would stop ostracizing people if they're not married by a certain age. To be honest, I think that's part of the reason why about 50% of marriages end in divorce...b/c of the pressure to settle down so much. If people weren't as pressured to marry these days, people would more likely wait for a decent man instead of settling for someone that they'll be miserable with.I am 30 and soon to be 31. I think the divorce rate is high because both marriage and divorce are too easy to get. Another topic for another day. I am sure next year will be just like this year. The difference being one year older.
monkey00 Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 Me. Just had a company party which would be optional for you to bring your +1. Oh well, not everyone had a +1. Hoorah for bachelors and bachelorettes alike! I might be hanging with my roommates chick friend and see where that goes pretty soon.
Star Gazer Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 Me. I was one of 2 single people at my company's Christmas party last weekend. The remaining other 40 people all brought their SO's (or a date). Me and the other single person (luckily, a dude) pretended to be each other's date. Ugh.
Isolde Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 I am, but I don't particularly care about it being the holidays, because I see them as a time to spend with family, and relax. If I had to go to any social functions that involved lots of SO's, it would probably be annoying, but I'm just a grad student and everyone's heading home. I've never really gone to any New Year's parties before, so I don't know what they're like.
IrishCarBomb Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 I'm single, and don't feel down about it. This'll be the first Christmas in a while I'll get to spend with my whole family (brothers are doctors so can't always get Christmas off from work and father works internationally), and I'm thrilled about it. Bottle of Jameson and family banter here we come! I guess it helps that they share my laid back attitude about relationship stuff, and really don't all that often try to question why I'm not married yet.
ABrokenWing Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 *raises hand* just as I have been EVERY Christmas I have been alive.
SoulSearch_CO Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 Yep, yep. Single. Divorce finalized this past August and it'll be my first Christmas, I think, that I'll been "alone." What I mean is that even my family is in a different state. I'm going to see them this weekend, but will be back before Christmas because of work. Should be interesting. I think I'll end up sleeping the whole day. LOL
xpaperxcutx Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 I've always spent Christmas alone (literally), since my parents prefer working on holidays rather than sitting down at the family table and wish each other cheers. I'm not bitter about it... I swear I'm not. Except for last Christmas, I actually spent it with my ex and his family, I think that was the one time I actually enjoyed celebrating the holidays. Of course this year, I'll be alone again, except I'm old enough to go out and get completely wasted. Is this what's it's like to feel completely down about certain things?
Author The Collector Posted December 18, 2008 Author Posted December 18, 2008 You're channeling Hugh Jackman (with a dash of Sting) in your profile pic. I would have sex with you, but I live across the ocean. British guys are sexy. Cheers. I've heard the Hugh Jackman comparison quite a few times, it's partly the scowl and sideburns I think. He's hot though so it's cool. I'm skinnier than him though. Is that Kim Deal in your avatar? If you are in fact Kim Deal I may rethink my one-hour rule.
Lishy Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 Actually, I think you look like an angry man in your pic You remind me of my ex!! Ooops
Author The Collector Posted December 18, 2008 Author Posted December 18, 2008 Actually, I think you look like an angry man in your pic I look like an angry man in real life too. Sometimes I scare myself.
Lishy Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 I look like an angry man in real life too. Sometimes I scare myself. Hahahahaha
sultry33 Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 Hi OP, Im single for this christmas too and first time in years.. will be great getting loads of chrimbo kisses:p The party scene is great this time of year and at least there are no exspensive presents to buy..or damn awkward ones..my ex was soo hard to please. bought him a ps3 last year and he said it was pos the bes present he ever had.. so his new girl now has that problem lol I would admit i miss having a partner to cuddle up to but other than that party all the way is the way for me;) Im in demand for parties which is only problem i have.. Hope you and everyone have a good christmas no matter who you spend it with. Nice pic by the way.. moody look good;) Lishy... hows you? x
Murphy08 Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 Yep...alone for christmas...again. Except this year will really suck because the guy I really like has a girlfriend...wish I could spend it with him... But hey life goes on and I'm going to try and move on...maybe even find a cute boy to kiss on NYE
sultry33 Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 Yep...alone for christmas...again. Except this year will really suck because the guy I really like has a girlfriend...wish I could spend it with him... But hey life goes on and I'm going to try and move on...maybe even find a cute boy to kiss on NYE hey whats with the one guy to kiss;) from my experience usually its a kissathon:laugh: i know its a sad time of year but life is what you make it.. have some fun x
youngandhopeful Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 yeah im also a singleton for the first time in 3 yrs. At first i was a bit disapointed i didn't have anyone to share it with, but i soon got over that lol. Merry Christmas to everyone btw x
Murphy08 Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 hey whats with the one guy to kiss;) from my experience usually its a kissathon:laugh: i know its a sad time of year but life is what you make it.. have some fun x haha very true, I shall have myself a lot of fun merry christmas to you x
portcitykitty Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 Even though I'm technically not single, I might as well be single because he'll be working this Christmas. Oh well, at least I have my trusty few friends and family to share it with.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 Hi Collector, I think you're kinda sexy. Like Sting. I would do you. Well, I am single this year, but for the first time in a looooooooooong time I'm dating someone and it looks somewhat promising. Time will tell, and you will all know about it as things progress! Or don't. Well, I guess there was a guy I was dating 2 years ago, so it wasn't that long. however, this is only the second time in a looooooooooooong time I've dated someone over Christmas. He annoyed me though because he didn't call me on Christmas. I had to wait until New Year's to hear from him. Every year I go home to the fam and think, wow another year has passed, and I'm still single. I wonder if it will always be this way? I love to see my family, but honestly, sometimes I would rather just stay in DC. I have friends who are here, so there would be a bunch of us singletons together. When I go home EVERY one I grew up with is married. It is a more traditional area and I always feel really out of place when I go back to visit. It's not just that people are hooked up, it's that they look at you like you're a freak for being by yourself.
crfsti Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 i'll be single this x-mas.......it sucks! i've never been able to get a gf, girls just won't give me the time of day
runner Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 i'm usually okay being single over the holidays, but this year its a bit tougher. just recently broke up with someone i thought was promising, and also moved to a new city so i don't exactly have a big warm social network (yet). hoping it gets better next year.
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