Lauriebell82 Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 So this new counselor started about a month ago, whose office is down the hall. She comes to my office about 4 times a day asking me if she "did the right thing." (and most of the time it's about things that are up to the discretion of the counselor, like scheduling appointments). She constantly asks me what to do in different situations, and although she is new and I completing understand that, it's still annoying, esp. when I have work to get done. Most of the time I will even shut my door, however if I do that she will still knock. I feel bad not helping her out, as I am a nice and caring person. My other annoyance, is that she finds fault in EVERYONE who works there. She isn't mean or harsh about it, but she does find some kind of problematic behavior that our supervisors, or even trainers do! Like we went to a training the other day: This man (who is an recovery alcoholic) did the training and he shared stories of his struggles with alcoholism and what he has put his family through during the presentation. I actually thought it was kind of interesting and he told some jokes and made the training interesting. So we were all talking about how we liked the training, and she of course found something to bitch about saying that "he talked about his family too much, and not enough about addiction." Then went on to say that he shared things that were not of any relevance to the training. UGH! I'm so frustrated. Dont' get me wrong, she is a nice girl, but she is driving me insane!!! Any advice?
2sure Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 Since she is being so critical of her new co-workers, you can bet she is being just as critical of you. Possibly to the point of ..."well I asked X if this was right..." Very soon, when she asks again if she is doing something correctly say "You have been here 2 weeks now and I can see that you really know what you're doing. You should feel confident about your decisons because I think you are doing a fine job! The rest of the details are just things we all learn by simply doing them and making some mistakes. Its great to have someone on board who works independently because sometimes thats a problem! " Oh, and shut the door on your way out.
Geishawhelk Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 I think maybe you should have a discreet and private word with a supervisor. if she's a counsellor, she's displaying an extraordinary and remarkable amount of self-doubt.... Talking about others in that way, is also a sign of a warped view of self-esteem. Confide in a superior and air any concerns you have. This is happening in your professional environment. Deal with it professionally. And close the door on your way out. (J/K)!
Author Lauriebell82 Posted December 18, 2008 Author Posted December 18, 2008 Thanks for the responses. This coworker actually quit today and put in her 2 weeks notice! I'm kind of glad to see her go, because now maybe she can find a job that she really loves and won't bitch about all the time.
2sure Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 Its kind of funny when someone we dont like turns out not to like us even more!
Author Lauriebell82 Posted December 19, 2008 Author Posted December 19, 2008 Its kind of funny when someone we dont like turns out not to like us even more! I don't know if it's because she doesn't like me (although I suppose you are right that she may bitch about me as well). She told us she quit becuase she has problems with our supervisors and doesn't understand/like the job. Oh well, I don't think the job is for her anyway, she seems like she's miserable.
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