toogood4u7 Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 Ill try to make this short. My ex bf broke up with me this past april. He said he wasent ready for a serious relationship (we were just about to move in together). So basically for months after he strung me along and I was dumb enough to go along with it. He met someone new at the end of August and stopped talking to me completly. Ive seen him out but I pretend like I dont see him or anything its just too hard for me to talk to him. We anyway last Friday he was out and he told my cousin he really needed to speak with me. I said hello and he went into this whole thing that he misses, he thinks about me all the time and that he wanted to apologize for everything he put me through. He asked if I had a new bf and I asked him how his relationship was. He told me he hated her and that they are basically over and he misses the way we were and all that crap. I told him everything that I always wanted to say to him like how much he hurt me and that I thought he was a jerk. The whole night he kept bringing up old times we had together and he took the cab ride home with me to make sure I got home safe and stuff. As I said goodbye he asked for my number, I gave it to him and around 20 mins later I get a phone call from him. He said he jsut wanted to let me know he got home ok. Then he started getting into the whole im sorry thing, and I miss you. I told him I had to go it was late and if he wanted to call me. Well I havent heard anything from him since. I just dont get it why would he go out of his way to say all that and call me just to act like it never happened. It wasent like he was drunk or trying to hook up with me or anything like that trust me. Why do you think he did this, do you think he wants to get back together or what? Its just so confusing-should I contact him?
againstallodds Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 Don't contact him. He's just testing you to see if you still in love with him. You are his backup plan now just incase it didn't workout with the other girl. Go NC and find someone else who truly love you. Why would you want to be second best?
lofi_tokyo Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 If he had been broken up with this girl for some time, then I'd be a bit more optimistic... but... it sounds more like hes in a crappy relationship, it makes him feel down on himself, so he lets nostalgia take over and he only remembers the good with you, making him miss you but... he only does this to make himself feel better. I don't know if its necessarily to get back together with you. I agree with against when they say your ex is keeping you as a backup. It kind of sounds like that to me. He just wants to know that someone will be there to catch him if he falls. Live your life as you have been, keep healing, and if he contacts you after having broken up with this woman and gotten over her, THEN I'd say you can start looking more deeply at things. Until then? Hes just wasting your time.
Sandy22 Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 Dear, Don't fall for his crap. He is just wanting to find out how you are and if the feelings are still there. You don't deserve to be anyone's backup plan. If he calls again tell him that you don't see the two of you together again. He will end up causing more pain to you
BCCA Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 It wasent like he was drunk or trying to hook up with me or anything like that trust me Listen to me... I know how hard it is to really come to grips with it, trust me I do. I thought the exact same thing about an ex of mine (and Im a guy, no less) I couldnt even imagine she would put on a show and say stuff like that just to get some booty. No way, that seems impossible. Guess what? She just wanted some booty. And I went along with it, thinking that we were on the path to reconciliation, and were seeing eachother more, having sleepovers, etc...then she met some one else, and I was left in the cold without a second thought. Sounds to me like the spark in his new relationship fizzled, and he's looking for something exciting, such as a little song and dance with you on the side. Maybe he isnt looking for sex, exactly, but trust me thats on his mind. He's probably looking to have his cake and eat it, too. If he hates this new gf, why are they still together? If I realized I hated my gf, I would dump her immediately...anyone would. He's feeding you lines to get you where he wants you to be. He just wants a backup/plan B.
againstallodds Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 I realized I hated my gf, I would dump her immediately...anyone would. I think this guy is looking for a backup. He'll only dump her if he find someone else otherwise he'll be alone. Unless she dump him first.
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