Her friend told me to start to play hard to get becasue she likes that..do it?

[Brady_to_Moss]

She told me to start doing that and i will be fine with her. But how exactally do you play hard to get.

[norajane]

She means don't be clingy and needy. Have a life of your own.

[Brady_to_Moss]

She means don't be clingy and needy. Have a life of your own.

 

 

So i dont have to like turn her down for dates or anything..just not always be home or stuff like that?

[Star Gazer]

So i dont have to like turn her down for dates or anything..just not always be home or stuff like that?

 

No. It means don't cling. It means don't buy her a fancy, expensive Christmas gift when she's told you over and over and over again that she's not ready (or doesn't want) to be in a relationship with you. You're smothering her. 4 days ago you were flipping out because she wasn't being as cutesy with her as you were with her. YOU are "hooked," but she is not...and she knows it. It's a turn off.

[norajane]

So i dont have to like turn her down for dates or anything..just not always be home or stuff like that?

 

Well, if you have a life of your own and are living it, chances are, you will have to turn her down for dates at times because you are busy.

 

Don't text her all the time, don't call so much, don't hover electronically being needy for her attention. Don't drop your plans so you can see her - schedule for another time. Don't invite her to everything you want to do - invite your friends, like you normally would.

 

Don't make her the center of your life.

[EYECANDY000]

Maybe she likes a little chase, more like a challenge.. It sounds like she's use to guys who are always hanging on her every word, so she needs someone to challenge her a little bit.

[Brady_to_Moss]

I called her last night because she wanted to talk to me so i did...so maybe i wont call for another day or so. She has called me more than i have called her though.

[O'Malley]

What are her qualities that make you believe there is real potential here?

She makes an issue of your prior crush on her friend, but she has had prior crushes on your pals, and she gives vague, noncommittal answers to your queries about having an actual relationship.

 

At some point, idealization caves into (righteous) exasperation at waiting for someone who doesn't have an problem with leaving you hanging.

[LucreziaBorgia]

Is that part of who you are naturally? If not, the last thing you want to happen is to get the point where you can't keep up the facade and be stuck in a situation with a girl who fell in love with a mask.

[Brady_to_Moss]

Is that part of who you are naturally? If not, the last thing you want to happen is to get the point where you can't keep up the facade and be stuck in a situation with a girl who fell in love with a mask.

 

Yea i agree. I mean i have done this before with so-so results. I am just going to do what is natural to me and see where it takes me!

[kashmir]

Don't lie to her and tell her you're busy. That's just stupid. Get busy. If she wants to spend a lot of time with you, your own life should conflict.

 

I tell myself now that I would have time for a girl I like, but if I really started seeing a girl, sometime she would want to hang out and I would be thinking, "balllllllsssssss, I'm tired" and not want to hang out.

 

I don't know why her friend would tell you what she told you. I'd be mad pissed if a friend of mine told a girl to play hard to get with me. Nothing like complicating things. That could have been her way of saying to ease off a bit, though, which I think is more likely.

[T-town]

I called her last night because she wanted to talk to me so i did...so maybe i wont call for another day or so. She has called me more than i have called her though.

 

I'd stop calling her period for awhile. She isn't going to go anywhere, as soon as you stop paying attention to her she will start calling you. Trust me.