EmperorR Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 My ex's best friend, I know I shouldn't have opened it but I did anyways and what I read made me cry. It's what I wanted a apology even though my ex didn't have the guts to say it to my face at least it's better than nothing. It was a reply to a email I sent before I made a new email after I kept breaking nc to talk to my ex, email is from September 27 "she did tellme the whole story then, when she first came back from Europe., you know, she was crying when she told me that she cheated on you and that she broke up with you. (don't tell her you know Abkht it ok). And I asked her if you are crying and feeling this way then you still have feelings for him, then why did you breAk up with him? She explained: I love him, but I cheated on him, I hate people who cheat, and if I continue to be with him it will be unfair to him. Because he was so good to me and knowing that I betrayed him every time I look at him will kill ms inside. And when he forgAve me it hurt even more, because I saw that he really loves me and I did such a bad thing to him." I guess the only solace I can take in this , is that there is no more thoughts of what I could have done differently etc., as it wasn't anything I did to mAke her cheat, it was just her.
Geishawhelk Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 Wow. That's quite something. How do you feel about it now.....
wowIlose Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 I am sorry but what a load of crap. Shes just relieving her own guilt, couldn't care less about you otherwise she would at least told you this and not her friend. Even than, the words are so pointless - You see, when you love someone nothing will stop you from being with that person... if she cared she would have pleaded and begged with you to forgive her. Bottom line is she stopped being attracted to you or she would still be with you but instead she dumped you and her excuse was: "I hate cheaters so I am gonna be super honorable and leave because I can't live with what I did." riiiigghhtt.. Sorry - just had to point that out. Keep moving on man, don't stunt your healing and get any ideas because you read that email
Surfer Dude Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 I am sorry but what a load of crap. Shes just relieving her own guilt, couldn't care less about you otherwise she would at least told you this and not her friend. Even than, the words are so pointless - You see, when you love someone nothing will stop you from being with that person... if she cared she would have pleaded and begged with you to forgive her. Bottom line is she stopped being attracted to you or she would still be with you but instead she dumped you and her excuse was: "I hate cheaters so I am gonna be super honorable and leave because I can't live with what I did." riiiigghhtt.. Sorry - just had to point that out. Keep moving on man, don't stunt your healing and get any ideas because you read that email Agreed. Besides, why would she tell you about butterflies in her stomach when she met that new guy, or how it was sweet when he bought her a donut? This seems like a load of BS to me. Her friend is probably lying in this email, if not then your ex lied to her in order not to turn out a slut in front of her friends. Either way, someone is being dishonest here and I doubt she is remorseful.
Geishawhelk Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 Maybe I need to harden up. Or maybe you guys need to be less cynical. Maybe we should meet in the middle....?
Author EmperorR Posted December 17, 2008 Author Posted December 17, 2008 Wow. That's quite something. How do you feel about it now..... I really don't care, I'm over my ex now, I guess a part of me the part that cried was like oh she did partly care about my feelings at one point. I am sorry but what a load of crap. Shes just relieving her own guilt, couldn't care less about you otherwise she would at least told you this and not her friend. Even than, the words are so pointless - You see, when you love someone nothing will stop you from being with that person... if she cared she would have pleaded and begged with you to forgive her. Bottom line is she stopped being attracted to you or she would still be with you but instead she dumped you and her excuse was: "I hate cheaters so I am gonna be super honorable and leave because I can't live with what I did." riiiigghhtt.. Sorry - just had to point that out. Keep moving on man, don't stunt your healing and get any ideas because you read that email lol, I know, actions speak louder than words I'm not stunting my healing over 80 days NC, and I'll never break it. Agreed. Besides, why would she tell you about butterflies in her stomach when she met that new guy, or how it was sweet when he bought her a donut? This seems like a load of BS to me. Her friend is probably lying in this email, if not then your ex lied to her in order not to turn out a slut in front of her friends. Either way, someone is being dishonest here and I doubt she is remorseful. I've known her friend longer than she is, I doubt she's lying plus the email was old, luckily I didn't get the email back then or I would probably be holding out hope, I'm over my cheating ex and I'll never contact the coward again.
CaliGuy Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 That's another reason why second chances with a cheater rarely work. If they have even an ounce of integrity, they know they don't deserve you and their own guilt will keep them away. They can't look you in the face without the guilt. And it's guilt, being unable to forgive themselves, that will keep the far from you. Take solace in the fact they feel the guilt....and move on to someone better for you.
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