DollWelch Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 I'm referring to materialistic objects, such as a new BlackBerry Phone, versus non-materialistic notions such as a Hand-Holding/Helping in the Soup Kitchen for the Homeless. My Question is: Man tells you he doesn't want anything for Christmas, only wants to get to you know better (on a personal level; personality and all). Is this realistic? HOW is it this man is choosing a non-materialistic idea and NOT tempted to have a new BlackBerry Phone (or whatever) for Christmas? I CAN'T think of any man who would say such words to a woman. Clearly this is irrational. Or Romantic. Or perhaps it isn't. I don't know. Thoughts (?).
Vertex Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 I can see a really nice evening out doing something fun together being a valid "Christmas gift" in a non-material sense. I mean, hell, a Blackberry sure wouldn't hurt, but I don't see his request as being entirely "irrational." Personally, for the past few years, when it's come to Christmas, I've had a really hard time answering people when they ask me what I want. There isn't anything material, usually, I can come up with. Sometimes just doing something fun together makes the holidays worthwhile on their own. It's not like he's asking for an interview to further probe your personality or anything -- you may be taking his request a bit too literally. I'd take it as an opportunity to plan something fun and creative so you guys can enjoy Christmas together.
BlueHarvest Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 He's telling you that the only thing he wanted for Christmas was you...he didn't say that directly of course but that's all. And that is an extremely romantic notion. You should be flattered and yet here you are...second guessing him.
kashmir Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 You're really over-thinking this. If I had a new gf that I liked a lot, I would take spending time with her over a stupid phone any day. He likes you...be flattered.
Author DollWelch Posted December 17, 2008 Author Posted December 17, 2008 Thank you, all, for the replies. I'm trying not to take this too literally, rather, I'm trying to wrap my mind around this phenomena with men -especially this man. I am certainly delighted and flattered to receive these kind words from him, but I don't know why he would say this to me. I feel odd in this situation. He and I are just close friends; not boyfriend-girlfriend by any means. I'm just baffled by the sudden revelation. Most often, spending one-on-one personal time with your significant other, is reserved for those in love or in like. Right? Sigh. Such is life.
carhill Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 OP, if a woman asked me what I wanted for Christmas, I'd simply answer "you just gave it to me" I've had a couple close female friends in my life and can't imagine saying such a thing to them, since we knew/know each other about as well and as intimately as a man and woman can without having sex/romance. That's kinda my description of a "close friend". Perhaps the words meant he enjoys your company and doesn't wish to receive gifts for Christmas. Take him to a movie (as a friend)
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