KaRo Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 I need some assistance with this one girl I work with. Anyway, to summarize: She told me she liked me, flirted with me (I believe) for a few weeks, and I was too shy to reciprocate so time went by and she eventually got married. She is now divorced. BUT, she has a boyfriend already! Is it safe to say she never thought I was interested back, b/c of my shy behavior? Well, I want to let her know that I am available, I don't want to do anything to cross any moral boundaries, but just to let her know I would definitely be interested if she were to get out of her present relationship? How do I go about doing this? Also, would her interest be completely and utterly dead after all this time? (about a year has passed). It's just, she is this really nice and sweet girl (and she is pretty attractive too), and I don't want her to slip away completely. If she gets married again I am screwed lol! If someone has any advice, that would be great.
BlueHarvest Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 Karo give us time to respond...no less then an hour and a half passed from the time of your first and second post. As for your situation, I would think if I were here and you didn't make a move originaly that she was just doing flirtatious banter with you because she knew you wouldn't make a move. Generally speaking if you don't PUT yourself out there as a potential boyfriend within the first meeting of a girl...you most likely won't ever get the chance again.
Author KaRo Posted December 16, 2008 Author Posted December 16, 2008 Karo give us time to respond...no less then an hour and a half passed from the time of your first and second post. As for your situation, I would think if I were here and you didn't make a move originaly that she was just doing flirtatious banter with you because she knew you wouldn't make a move. Generally speaking if you don't PUT yourself out there as a potential boyfriend within the first meeting of a girl...you most likely won't ever get the chance again. Srry BlueHarvest, just a little anxious I guess. But, are you saying she was only flirting with me b/c I wouldn't make a move on her?
Artu Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 KaRo, I would not think of her seriously . She is damn too quick to -flirt with u; -get married; -divorce; -make a new bf ! Or are you looking for a really shallow ,never deep relationship ?
Author KaRo Posted December 16, 2008 Author Posted December 16, 2008 KaRo, I would not think of her seriously . She is damn too quick to -flirt with u; -get married; -divorce; -make a new bf ! Or are you looking for a really shallow ,never deep relationship ? Hey Artu, well, maybe you are right in what you say. I'm just thinking she is really impatient in finding the right guy, or maybe she is just immature I dunno.
Green Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 seriously her attraction for you of a year ago is completely dead. But its a good sign she was once attracted to you. You need to forget that and start from scratch if you want this girl to be attracted to you
BikerBeagle Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 Chances are, if you attempt to make a move on her, you'll find out what being "friend-zoned" means.
Author KaRo Posted December 16, 2008 Author Posted December 16, 2008 Chances are, if you attempt to make a move on her, you'll find out what being "friend-zoned" means. BB what do you mean, you don't think she liked me to begin with, I don't have a chance? Please clarify.
Green Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 BB what do you mean, you don't think she liked me to begin with, I don't have a chance? Please clarify. he means you don't have a chance. You need to be bold KaRo if you want a chance. You actualy have to sexualy harass her and hope she likes it
EYECANDY000 Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 Do you really want to get involved in a love triangle? whats the point of telling her that you want to be with her, if she is already with someone. the whole situation of her being divorced an then already having a boyfriend means either (a) she was cheating on her husband with this guy or (b) he is a rebound guy.. i would let her be, and give her some space. I dont think its a good idea to persue her or even express your past and present feelings for her..
Author KaRo Posted December 17, 2008 Author Posted December 17, 2008 he means you don't have a chance. You need to be bold KaRo if you want a chance. You actualy have to sexualy harass her and hope she likes it Well you are probably right with the "bold" thing KMT. I just wasn't sure if BB meant it. I suppose my timing is way off lol should've done something while I had the opening.
Perry Posted December 19, 2008 Posted December 19, 2008 Why don't you ask her boyfriend what you should do?
Author KaRo Posted December 21, 2008 Author Posted December 21, 2008 Why don't you ask her boyfriend what you should do? lol that your way of saying "back off?"
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