learner911 Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 I posted another thread here. I've known my soon to be ex wife for 3 years. Married 2 years. It's now nearing 3 months since she left and I must say that each day it's becoming a little easier but there are times where I can literally feel my heart pounding and my dissapointment levels hitting new highs. All I can say is that divorce is the thing that tops the low of lows in my life. The only thing I'm relieved and thankfull for is that we didn't have any kids. The saying 'there is nothing like a woman scorned' rings true for my wife. She has and had no or very little intention of fixing anything since the day she left. I on the other hand was partially blind to her troubles mainly due to life getting in the way and me not paying attention to issues that I thought minor and easily fixable in our marriage. I've made it my mission in life for the next year or so to get to understand why things turned out the way they did. Don't know if I'll ever fully understand but something I will do with great resolve would be to find out how to have a good or great relationship and what makes a good marriage before entering into any new relationship. For now I seem to be a day to day slave to try and make piece with my current situation and to accept it. How long does it take to fully heal after a 2 year marraige? Before I was married and knew my wife I used to be happy or content with life in general with ups, downs and everything life throws at you. I just wish there was a magic cure that would get rid of the heartache and dissapointment I'm experiencing where I could get back to where I started. My mind feels like a broken record playing itself over and over again. What's it like after 6 months, a year and what helps getting you out of feeling hopeless, or what helps you get out of the emotional mess?
dead-dyke Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 What's it like after 6 months, a year and what helps getting you out of feeling hopeless, or what helps you get out of the emotional mess? 6 mos. - A little easier..... 1 YR. - A little easier.. Getting out of feeling hopeless? - TIME. It's priceless. Sorry your going through this crap w/ the rest of everyone here. On a lighter note, I only come here anymore to see if I have any advice whatsoever that may help, and one day, you may get there too. I mean the coming here part. People hurt, and if there is anyplace that people find good support groups, this place has 'em. Your tale isn't unique - Most of the walk - a- ways generally won't try to fix anything. It's easier to.... well, walk.
Benique Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 You just need time . You will get healed . Time will help . Try to find some fun that makes your attention attracted so that you forget all that sad what is on your mind and in your heart . Separations happen , you are not first,you are not last , though these words help less ,but they are full of truth . Do try to be strong . Never break your heart . You have got just one
sumdude Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 You'll never really know, there is no "answer'. It's not a math problem and eventually your mind will tire from trying to solve an unsolvable problem. Yes it's good to take a look at yourself and your actions to work on self improvement. If you're not learning your not living.. but you are missing way to much information to ever understand why she left other than because she wanted to. She probably doesn't know why for sure so in her mind to justify it you have to be at fault for everything. 6 months.. slightly better 1 year.. a little better than 6 months Stay busy working on you, your future, taking care of yourself. The rest will follow with time.
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