casey001 Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 Hey there I was wondering if you guys could help me. Im 20 and have had two serious relationships, one 2.5 years and the other one year long. Both guys I really loved and both REALLY broke my heart. Both dumped me, the first one had another girl friend within 2 days. The other started dating his bestfriend one week later. I feel like both of them left me for someone else and I was VERY easy to forget and get over! This hurts VERY much. Both guys I have dated have had tons of gfnds and tons of short lived relationships. I have only had those two relationships. I have been VERY VERY hurt and now two months short of my 21st I feel so lonely and down. I feel like im not good enough for anyone and that I wont ever meet the right guy. I was wondering if your guys could let me know how many relationships you have been in? How many times have you been dumped or did you dump someone? I guess I will just feel a bit normal if I know its not just me thats always being dumped and left for someone else. Thanks so much And im sorry I dont mean to drag up anyones past hurts!
hereandnow Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 I'm 27 and have only ever been in one relationship, the one that ended 2 months ago. I was the one who got "dumped." Hey, so you're way ahead of me!
EmperorR Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 Just one my cheating ex, I just never wanted relationships in my life then I fell for her when I was 20, I'm 23 now.
Ross PK Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 I'm 33 and I've only had one relationship which was online when I was 28, it only lasted for two months, and I'm not even sure how real it was. I keep thinking that maybe she had other motives. Oh and btw, it was me who got dumped.
Artu Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 I am 35 years old, and had been in 2 relationships only . Do not feel low if they left . They were such who are leaving . Its not because of you . You say yourself that they had many shortterm relationships themselves, so why are you surprised or feeling low ? And remember , people match , there are many close by spirit people , you will meet one of those who are close to you . Just be patient .
Growingup Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 I've only had one that lasted 2 months which I ended on Halloween. I was becoming to obsessed with her and I could see she was losing interest so I broke it off before she did but it still felt like she dumped me. She moved on right away ( actually the same day I broke up with her she was with someone else) so I'm guessing she was already seeing another dude while we were dating. I'm 21 but really being 21 is way better than being 20 at least you're legal. There's nothing fun about 20 it's just depressing to know your teenage years are over
CandyGirlXO Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 I am 26, and I have had 3 serious relationships, first 2 relationships lasted 2 years. #1 cheated on me #2 broke up with me for no reason. 3rd relationship was for 3 years, and I ended it because I fell out of love with good reason. I have dated people casually and also have had a FWB relationship for about 1 year in between my serious relationships. Guy #2 really broke my heart and I didn't believe in love so I was able to have a FWB just fine. Worked out nicely. Now I have been single for about 8 months, and thats because after college it is a lot harder to meet someone, but I don't let it bother me most of the time. It is kind of nice to give it all a break, since I am usually in relationships.
CandyGirlXO Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 Just wanted to add, I was the same way you are. Guy #2 broke up with me shortly after I turned 21. I don't always believe it myself but it has to be true, you will find someone else eventually. Just heal and give it time. Most guys that young are immature, and they aren't looking to settle down. They still want to play the field. It hurts, but that is pretty normal I think for guys early 20's. My EX broke up with me at 21 saying, "I need to find myself" LOL right! I was his 1st LTR, so I really think that is why he left.
alwayssme Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 I have dated alot but I dont really like people easily soo let's see... Not including people I dated and simply hooked up with... I went out with this guy for about 4 months, then dumped him because I never was that much into him, it wasn't a serious relationship and we both were okay with it. I didnt care at all to let that relationship go, it was weird...I guess because we never got that close and only saw each other a few times. After him, there was a friend I messed with...This was very complicated..we were friends throughout all high school years, hooked up for two years, then I dont even remember what happened but we stopped talking...I was very hurt and heartbroken. After that we talked again and decided we were better off as friends. Then I met my ex who I went out with for two years. My first love, my everything basically. He left me because he fell out of love with me...the most painful experience i ever went through....BUT i am much better now, and this only made me stronger... Now completely single..lol...for the first time in my life there is not even "somebody i like"....its lonely but yet so peaceful...there is no drama..sure im still not 100% over my ex but im getting there!
alwayssme Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 Just wanted to add, I was the same way you are. Guy #2 broke up with me shortly after I turned 21. I don't always believe it myself but it has to be true, you will find someone else eventually. Just heal and give it time. Most guys that young are immature, and they aren't looking to settle down. They still want to play the field. It hurts, but that is pretty normal I think for guys early 20's. My EX broke up with me at 21 saying, "I need to find myself" LOL right! I was his 1st LTR, so I really think that is why he left. Hmm...interesting! No wonder once my ex started going out to clubs...he felt "trapped" and wanted his freedom...then he "fell out of love with me"...I guess we are pretty young though.
D-Lish Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 What constitues a relationship? Only the serious 6 months plus, the short term 2-3 months, the intense 3 weeks? If it's 6 months plus, I'd answer 5. I am 38. If it's intensity- people I have really liked and been comitted to for a certain amount of time 2-4 months.... maybe 10-15? Now... been in love with???? 2 people.
Citizen Erased Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 I'm 21 and have been in 2, the first was 1.5 years and my current is 4 years and counting. I broke up with the first guy. I don't count anyone before my ex, nothing but teenage hormones and lust.
thisismystory Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 i've had 2 relationships. the first one cheated on me and pretended it never happened. afterwards....he came to me sobbing when they had a temporary break....asking if getting dumped hurts this much. that was like a stab to my heart. even more so b/c their relationship outlasted ours (2.5 years to my 1.5 years) i'm still in my second one but really insecure b/c of my first relationship. recently the girl he used to really like is dating his brother now. i don't know what to make of this.....especially since my current isn't a great communicator and we're in an LDR. but i just gotta trust him. if i get heartbroken again (it hurts just as much to dump someone as to be dumped.....for me at least, b/c even if a relationship doesn't work out, that person used to be someone you love and still do in a way) ....i know one day there will be someone who will appreciate me. i'm still young and got a lot to learn. so are you. so don't feel bad
Trialbyfire Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 I'm 33. Been in 5 LTRs including my marriage and subsequent divorce. Beyond that STRs and dating. Never been dumped although there was one ambivalent split of a thing/fling. Go figure. I'm just as confused about it as anyone reading it.
sedgwick Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 Okay, let's see, I'll do the entire relationship history and who dumped who. Age 16: Leigh. He dumped me. I was totally heartbroken, I lost my virginity to him. Age 19: Rob. I dumped him. Age 21: Kirk. I dumped him. Age 23: Stephen. My first real, true, adult love. He dumped me. One of the two biggest romantic heartbreaks of my life. Age 24, got married to Glenn. Divored at age 30. It was mutual. We're still best friends. (weird, right?) Age 30, Greg. He dumped me. Age 32, Stephen 2. I broke up but it was because it was long-distance and neither of us wanted to move. We're still close friends. Age 33, the most vile ex I've ever had, whom we'll just call Sh*tnugget. He dumped me but I knew he was a cheating lying abusive jerk so I wouldn't have stayed with him anyway. Ugh, ugh, ugh. Age 36: Joe. My second true love, one of the two candidates for the love of my life (alongside Stephen 1.) He dumped me. I've now been single for 17 months, which is the longest I've gone in my entire dating life. So that's how many relationships, 9? And I'm 37? There were other people I dated and had flings with in there, but these were the ones I consider *relationships*. They were the ones I really cared about, the ones that lasted more than a couple of dates.
Fierce Grace Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 it's one of those weird parts of life we all have to go through if it doesn't kill u it can only make u stronger.... I'm 30 and 3 committed relationships in to the game.. (sounds like an AA meeting) 1 - 6.5 years I ended it after the engagement before the wedding 2 - 1.5 years he ended it and immediately changed his mind ..... no regrets say what u mean and mean what u say 3 - 2 years it was a mutual agreement - i prompted it he followed through we're all still friends to varying degrees just take what u can from the experiences and know that getting to know people is half the journey of life
Trialbyfire Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 it's one of those weird parts of life we all have to go through if it doesn't kill u it can only make u stronger.... I'm 30 and 3 committed relationships in to the game.. (sounds like an AA meeting) You're killing me, although I've never attended an AA meeting. I have heard about them though.
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