scottk51 Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 I've been seeing this one girl for about 4 months now. We're both into eachother and we let eachother know it, we've been on many dates and we usually hang out a few times a week. Things are just starting to seem really cozy and comfortable. Our schedules get in the way quite often though. We both work almost full time on night shifts, so to get days off on the same day isnt too often, but once a week or so. My problem is this, i haven't seen her in almost 2 weeks now due to schedule conflicts and just bad timing. Today she had off and i was excited to see her but she decided to hang out with her girlfriend, which is fine, but she just hung out with the other night, and it seems like she likes spending time with friends more often now on weekends.I'm always cool with it though, i never start problems over it. She tells me she's into and loves spending time with me but i cant help but think her priorities are else where. I dont want to feel like i'm just sitting around waiting for her to be available but i also don't wan to just walk away from her. Any advice is appreciated.
Author scottk51 Posted December 16, 2008 Author Posted December 16, 2008 she hasnt done too much those 2 weeks besides work. she usually has shifts from 5-2 in the morning. i can understand her wanting to spread time evenly with family and friends but im just wondering if its a concern
Left in a Lurch Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 Yeah, this would be a big red flag. If it was me I am pretty forward, I would have told her that I had not seen her in 2 weeks yet she would rather spend the time with her friend and that tells me where I rank. I would mention I was really looking forward to seeing her but it is clear she did not feel the same way and I'd wish her luck. I'd walk away. You're her backup plan/meal ticket when her friends are busy. In the very least I would stop calling and see if she called me. I would absolutely not suggest that we hang out or do anything and see if she suggests it. I'd bet money she would be indifferent and if she calls she wouldn't mention meeting up or getting together.
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