how come I'm not interested in any of them?

[alwayssme]

It's weird but i NEVER liked anybody when I met them and "dated" them. I have dated guys and (unfortuantely or maybe its a good thing? lol) but so far they all like me. However they show interest WAY TOO SOON (like first date telling me they really like me and would like to have a relationship with me in the future) for some reason that turns me off...but even if it wasn't that, somehow i'm just not interested...

 

 

I just end up "liking" people randomly...but its never through dating...in a way dating someone before even really knowing them makes me feel uncomfortable and pressured to "see them in that way"

 

 

I dont know if this makes any sense...I'm broken up with my ex for 4 months and still love him...maybe its that??? Anyway I'm trying to figure out why is it so hard for me to be into anyone at all? I'm scared I'm going to be single for a long time because i dont like people easily and i cant force myself? but i LOVE being happy and having someone there...

[MN randomguy]

Sounds like it may be that you're not over your ex. What age are you. Maybe you're just not really into dating yet. Are you ridiculously attractive?

However they show interest WAY TOO SOON

 

 

Maybe you've got young guys that are trying too hard. That was me.

 

But, if you're attracted to some guy that isn't the one who's pursuing you that's OK. As long as he's a decent guy. Go flirt with him. If you just don't want to date, don't date.

[alwayssme]

lol hi...

 

am i rediculously attractive? haha how can one answer that question without sounding VERY conceited? hahaha!! I like the way I look nd many people think i'm very pretty...my personality though...i'm too emotional when it comes to love which sucks and im picky i think...im in college so yes im definetely young but im having a hard time lettgin go of my ex and connecting with new people..it will come when the time is right maybe? I just dont want to force myself to like somebody or settle..thats why i wonder if there is something wrong with me for not liking any of these guys...but they are not my type i guess anyway.

[MN randomguy]

but im having a hard time lettgin go of my ex and connecting with new people..it will come when the time is right maybe? I just dont want to force myself to like somebody or settle..

 

This is it.

 

Nothing wrong with you. You're just not emotionally available. These guys may or may not be your type. Maybe right guy, wrong time. Hopefully you don't believe that nonsense about there only being a "one" special person for you. It may take some time to get over the ex. You've got time. Hang out with friends. Don't try to date. Don't be afraid to tell people you're not looking for a guy right now.

[alwayssme]

This is it.

 

Nothing wrong with you. You're just not emotionally available. These guys may or may not be your type. Maybe right guy, wrong time. Hopefully you don't believe that nonsense about there only being a "one" special person for you. It may take some time to get over the ex. You've got time. Hang out with friends. Don't try to date. Don't be afraid to tell people you're not looking for a guy right now.

 

 

thanks! you're right!

[kashmir]

Bah, you're in college. I don't get why or HOW you can attached to a guy so easily.

 

But I don't blame you for losing attraction for those guys you went on dates with. They really told you on the first date that they want to be in a relationship with you? That's a bit clingy if you ask me.

 

Forget your old boyfriend and meet a new cool guy. We're out there, and not all of us are so clingy.

[edinsvet]

I got the same problem.

Sounds like we need some time off from dating.

[Fierce Grace]

Sounds soo familiar.. whomever said emotionally unavailable hit it on the head.. I'm in that weird zone were u meet people but they come off very clingy and the harder they try the more u dislike them.. very strange place to be but its bc u want that ..just not from them ..