What would YOU do?

[DSM-IV Tom]

Say you dated a girl for a year, and you fell in love with her. (Or if you're a girl, then let's say you dated a guy for a year and fell in love with him).

 

Imagine that you had very few problems, up until the end. Imagine it was the happiest you had ever been.

 

Picture that you planned to marry this person one day, and you knew deep down your love was actually real.

 

Say you counted on this person and believed in them, and you knew they believed in you.

 

Then say up around the 11th month, they started to complain about things that you did wrong. (That you actually DID do wrong. Like caring too much about trivial things like looks. Self centeredness).

 

Now let's say they broke up with you out of the blue.

 

You look at yourself deep down and you see all your errors and you correct them within yourself. As time passes, you know if you had another chance, things would be different (on your end).

 

Then weeks later, the person contacts you saying how much they miss you. And they want to hang out. And they say they want to get back together in the future.

 

 

 

You're in my shoes now.

 

What would you do?

 

The love is genuine. I wouldn't pick up where I left off. I'd start over and get to know her again. I wouldn't be the same person.

 

Would you do it?

 

 

**Before you answer this, please forget about the one you love who left you. Imagine a completely different scenario. (This one). Not the one you were in. (Unless what you were in is very similar to this).

[D-Lish]

I'd be scared... But I am sure you know that about me.

 

If I were actually in your shoes, I'd proceed with some caution, but I would be truly happy about the opportunity to give things another try.

[Joyvke]

First things first. Let's see how hanging out would feel. If it would feel natural or awkward. From there I'd decide to continue or not I guess.

[Kamille]

yeah I would do it, whoever's shoes I was in. It doesn't sound like you had any problems with her, so if she's willing to give you another chance, take it!

 

Plus, that real love thing? Just not something I would like to pass up.

[DSM-IV Tom]

Both your replies covered about everything I could ask for.

 

Thank you both for your time and replies.