serendipity_2008 Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 Consider these facts. -they were in a relationship for 9 months -the girl never slept with him, (virgin) but other than that she is very kind, sincere, loving, affectionate and trusting. -he initially broke up with her and told her he was over her, and that she should never contact him again, yet he continued 2 call while they were broken up. -Both parties are adults. -the guy got a girlfriend immediately after breaking up with his ex but it only last a month in a half. -the guy calls his ex and tells her he lost his virginity to the other woman but didn't love her and now wants her back. what do you think the ex bf's intentions are towards his old girlfriend and should she take him back if she doesn't plan on having sex with him?
Geishawhelk Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 He's still hoping for sex, and that now he's no longer a virgin, he can convince her what fun it is. No, she shouldn't take him back. Why, does she want to? That would make her a doormat, and give him false hopes. I'm sorry. It's really offputting when you keep saying 'he', 'she', and 'they', when in actual fact, you mean 'him', 'her' and 'us'. This is about you, right? Why don't you just say so?
Author serendipity_2008 Posted December 15, 2008 Author Posted December 15, 2008 He's still hoping for sex, and that now he's no longer a virgin, he can convince her what fun it is. No, she shouldn't take him back. Why, does she want to? That would make her a doormat, and give him false hopes. I'm sorry. It's really offputting when you keep saying 'he', 'she', and 'they', when in actual fact, you mean 'him', 'her' and 'us'. This is about you, right? Why don't you just say so? Well I am embarrassed about my situation.
daithi Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 Well I am embarrassed about my situation. Not need for embarresment, I have alot of respect for a woman who just does not sleep with a man, well done em, he left for sex, he will come back and want to sleep with you no doubt. If he was a good man he would have waited in the first place.
Benique Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 ...and I think, he after getting sex with the other woman , understood that he really loved his girlfriend, so broke up with the second woman ,and wants to get his gf back . Why for sex ? and why not for sex ? Sex is just exppression of love . Loving her (his gf) he was actually attracted to her , right ? But respecting her ,he did not make sex by force,but went to another woman (hurting , but life reality) . Now got sex and realized he is in love with her (his gf ) It`s really confusing , so many 'him','her' and once again 'her' I support the guy ! He truly respects her . His hormones did not make him to take her by force . Her = his gf he is in love with . Confusing 'her'- 'him'- 'her'
Author serendipity_2008 Posted December 17, 2008 Author Posted December 17, 2008 ...and I think, he after getting sex with the other woman , understood that he really loved his girlfriend, so broke up with the second woman ,and wants to get his gf back . Why for sex ? and why not for sex ? Sex is just exppression of love . Loving her (his gf) he was actually attracted to her , right ? But respecting her ,he did not make sex by force,but went to another woman (hurting , but life reality) . Now got sex and realized he is in love with her (his gf ) It`s really confusing , so many 'him','her' and once again 'her' I support the guy ! He truly respects her . His hormones did not make him to take her by force . Her = his gf he is in love with . Confusing 'her'- 'him'- 'her' LOL! Thanks Benique. I should have just came straight out and said it, I am just being complicated. :lmao: I promise the next post want have any more him or hers, hehe.
Author serendipity_2008 Posted December 17, 2008 Author Posted December 17, 2008 Not need for embarresment, I have alot of respect for a woman who just does not sleep with a man, well done em, he left for sex, he will come back and want to sleep with you no doubt. If he was a good man he would have waited in the first place. that's a very good way of looking at my situation. So do u think that it would be wise to not try a relationship again and give him time to grow up, or should i just call it off completely? The breakup was very bad by the way. I was very surprised on how he treated me, and then he wants to come back and ask for another chance. This whole love thing is so complicated. :Sigh:
SierraRose Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 He's still hoping for sex, and that now he's no longer a virgin, he can convince her what fun it is. No, she shouldn't take him back. Why, does she want to? That would make her a doormat, and give him false hopes. I'm sorry. It's really offputting when you keep saying 'he', 'she', and 'they', when in actual fact, you mean 'him', 'her' and 'us'. This is about you, right? Why don't you just say so? I totally agree with Geisha!...Sounds to me like he didn't want to wait any longer.. met someone else, got laid, now he is satisfied for the moment...kind of makes me think maybe he wasn't a virgin in the first place!
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