zilverenvlinder Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 We live together and I'm in the process of moving out. We haven't spoken in two days. He sends me an email today: I just wanted to say hello and that I hope you are doing okay. I have a meeting first thing this morning, but I wanted you to know that the animals are all okay. Keep your chin up. I send this back: Hi! Okay, I’m glad they’re okay, you haven’t forgotten about the kitty have you? I don’t really think I can make any money, no one is buying anything. Are you doing okay? And he sends this back: I’m still sad and sometimes lonely, but I’m okay. I didn’t mean to bother you by emailing you, I just wanted to say hi and I hope you aren’t hurting as much as you were. And no... I did not forget about kitty. She is well fed and just fine. What am I supposed to respond to this??? Or am I supposed to respond at all??
Geishawhelk Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 You made the biggest mistake by even responding to the first one. You should just have ignored it all.
Sari Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 I guess it depends on how you are feeling. It sounds like he is missing you and trying to get you to chat. This does not necessarily mean he wants to reconcile though, so if you are still feeling very bad about your break-up (as I'm sure you are) and hold a candle for him, then go nc on his ass. If he continues to contact then I would say either he wants you back or is just insensitive and trying too soon for 'friendship'. Leave it as him emailing you last, if nothing else it will make you feel a bit more powerful!
Author zilverenvlinder Posted December 15, 2008 Author Posted December 15, 2008 See, I guess I'm confused... I thought NC was just not INITIATING contact, not responding. I thought my response was supposed to look light hearted and blah blah. But I guess I'm wrong. O_O
Sari Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 Not sure if you saw my above post, but anyway I see nc as no contact from either party. I think your response was fine but just leave it now, you sounded perky and upbeat and that's the best you can do in these situations. If he's too blind to see what he's missing by breaking up with you, then jumping into action every time he calls or emails is not going to help him see, it will just make you look needy and scare him off.
DSM-IV Tom Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 I hate cats. That's my contribution to this topic. ... LMAO jk. But my girl geishawelk already covered this like cheese on a pizza. Nothing more needs to be said. Do not respond in the future, if you were the one hurt.
CaliGuy Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 Delete, delete, delete. It's not hard. It just takes self discipline and self respect.
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