Nagini Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 had planned to start dating a guy i dated last year but things got fubared. Distance and whatnot. I am moving close to him for work and friends in about 6 weeks. He has kept saying he wanted to date me again, but twice this year he has gotten new serious gfs within a month of asking me out. Its become a joke with my friends. They cant believe that he acts so crazy about missing me buts dates others. ANyway I finally was giving him one more big shot. But I noticed that another girl started posting on his blog recently. She seemed flirty, saying his photos were hot and whatnot. She sent him virtual gifts and even asked him to call her at 3 am because a noise woke her up. I asked about her two weeks ago. He said they had gone on two dates but nothing at all serious. Now he recently adopted a cute puppy and she and I have both been posting about it on his blog. Well today she posted some video about a puppy and acted very flirty and like they are close. So i emailed him and asked him if he is currently dating her (he asked me the same question about a guy on my page, so i felt like i could do the same) GET ready for this response from him. " I don't think XXXXX and I are dating, we just go on dates. " (*,) This girl certainly seems to think theyre dating..
LovieDove24 Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 I'd say you can probably go on about 5 dates before actually considering yourself "dating." When I think of "dating" it usually entails some kind of conversation about it. Otherwise, you're just getting to know each other to see if you want to "date" them officially.
Author Nagini Posted December 15, 2008 Author Posted December 15, 2008 I'd say you can probably go on about 5 dates before actually considering yourself "dating." When I think of "dating" it usually entails some kind of conversation about it. Otherwise, you're just getting to know each other to see if you want to "date" them officially. But dating is going on dates. That's the definition. I think that the girl he is seeing definitely thinks theyre dating. She seems very possessive of him. Plus he has stopped being flirty towards me on his page. Now he acts flirty in emails or IMs only (saying he wishes see me soon, im stunning in my new photos, a vision, im so sweet, etc)
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 I'm sure that the girl would be very surprised to hear that they "aren't dating". I wouldn't trust anything this guys says, even if he were fully wired to a lie detector machine and passing with flying colors. Go back and read your other posts, and then make a list of all of this guy's positive qualities that make you want to date him. Then make a list of red flags as to why you shouldn't. Perhaps it needs to be that clear before you can see why there really isn't a point in bothering with this guy.
Author Nagini Posted December 15, 2008 Author Posted December 15, 2008 I'm sure that the girl would be very surprised to hear that they "aren't dating". I wouldn't trust anything this guys says, even if he were fully wired to a lie detector machine and passing with flying colors. Go back and read your other posts, and then make a list of all of this guy's positive qualities that make you want to date him. Then make a list of red flags as to why you shouldn't. Perhaps it needs to be that clear before you can see why there really isn't a point in bothering with this guy. Yeah there are a myriad of other good reasons I should run screaming. But somehow this sticks out the most clearly. Looking over all her comments more closely, she is completely gaga over him and would probably go ballistic to know he telling me he cant wait to see me and when will he and that they aren'y dating.... My ex bf is a swell guy. happily newlywed and expecting a baby with his lovely wife... He summed up the absurd suggestion that dating is not going on dates with this pithy response : I don't think my wife is pregnant. She is carrying a small human in her womb temporarily. :lmao:
Star Gazer Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 I don't think going on dates is "dating." I have a second date with someone tonight, and a third with another on Thursday. I don't consider myself "dating" either one of them...yet. The guy I was dating before this I had been seeing since July, and because of the time between dates (up to 2 weeks sometimes), I didn't feel comfortable using that term for quite a while (ironically, right before "the end").
LovieDove24 Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 I am in complete agreeance with Star Gazer. I've gone on several 1st, 2nd and 3rd dates with different men over the last year. And most of em I didnt refer to as people I was dating. I'd just say "That guy I went to the symphony with" or whatever.
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