Sari Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 I just rang my ex's work phone just to hear his voice, then hung up straight away. Bad news. I've managed nc for 2 weeks. I thought he might sense that it was me and ring me back or email me but nothing. I want to die. Please help me.
LouiseC Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 Oh honey, I'm sorry. You've been doing so well, but at least you hung up! It's ok you know - you're human, you love him - it's understandable, believe me I know! What would you have done if he had called back?
EmperorR Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 We've all been there, I pranked call my ex last month on our monthly anniversary.
Author Sari Posted December 15, 2008 Author Posted December 15, 2008 Good to know I'm not alone in the madness. Thanks for the replies. If he had rung me back then I wouldn't have picked up my phone. I promised myself I would give him a month to sort his head out before I attempted a friendly casual call. Probably kidding myself that this will change anything but I know that he still loves me even if he feels that he needs to 'be free' and I'm hoping that a month of not bothering him might help him get his head straight!
zilverenvlinder Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 Don't worry!! He probably doesn't know it was you. Unless he has caller id. O_O
Author Sari Posted December 15, 2008 Author Posted December 15, 2008 I did the ultimate stalker thing and pressed 141 before I dialled, which means your number doesn't appear on their phone (British thing I think!), thank god. When he picked up I just got the feeling he knew it was me though, the tone in his voice. I think I'm imagining things though. If he did know then he sounded pleased to speak to me, if he didn't know then he sounded pretty chirpy which makes wanna die.
zilverenvlinder Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 Arghhh I'm so sorry. (It's not just a British thing, in the States we have *67 which does the same thing!!) Blaaah I wish all of us dumpees could be in the same city so we could sit around at a bar and whine at each other.
Author Sari Posted December 15, 2008 Author Posted December 15, 2008 Me too! I'm sick of all my friends and their happy relationships, especially as my relationship was so effin good. Or so I thought.
LouiseC Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 I know it's difficult but try not to read too much into his response. Sometimes we repeat things in our head over and over so much that we see/hear things that weren't there.
Author Sari Posted December 15, 2008 Author Posted December 15, 2008 I know! I received an email from him a couple of weeks ago "Can't sort my head out, going to miss you so much, aching and hurting, don't know what I want, breaking up is right even though there are so many things wrong with it, probably going to regret this" blah blah, I have read it so many times I know it off by heart, looking in to each sentence crazily for some hidden meanings. Blurgh!!
LouiseC Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 I say delete it! But then I'm not one to talk - I've still got text messages he sent me just after the first time he ended it..."Do you think we could fix it, I felt the worse pain I ever imagined, I really do love you but I think I ruined it"... Seriously, why are men so dumb sometimes? The best thing they'll have have is staring back at them and they just can't see it.
Author Sari Posted December 16, 2008 Author Posted December 16, 2008 That sounds identical to what my ex said when he broke up with me the first time! Stupid commitment-phobic ass-hats. Playing the waiting game sucks though, but I'm not contacting him. And even if he contacts me I won't reply til he either says what I want to hear or it drives me crazy!
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