thisismystory Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 i'm just wondering if guys prefer predictable or unpredictable girlfriends more...and if so...what are some ideas? I don't wanna have to constantly think about stuff to do....that's putting in too much thought in the relationship But sometimes, a surprise here and there in the relationship can be nice.
2sure Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 3 Martinis usually make me fairly unpredictable
Geishawhelk Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 I sooooo knew, you were going to say that....!
stillafool Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 Do you mean "unpredictable" like you're not home when he calls but you were supposed to be or "unpredictable" behavior when you are around him? I was always "unpredictable" and guys hated it. But that's because I was never home.
tincanman99 Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 How unpredictable are we talking about here? Are we talking about not returning phone calls or dancing on top of the bar? Most guys do not like women that are unpredictable. Why? Unpredictable = flake flake = drama drama = needless aggravation Get it?
Jo78 Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 My guy doesn't like it when I unpredictably get mad at him, for some reason. However, he never once complained about an unpredictable BJ. You just never know what to expect with that guy!
Vertex Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 Haha, I don't think she's referring to the "unpredictable" bad actions here. She's asking if it's better to be spontaneous or not In my opinion, spontaneity can be nice: 1. Surprises are nice because getting something good out of nowhere is great! 2. It shows you put premeditated thought into it, which shows you're caring/thoughtful. Usually, it's a sign that the relationship is in good shape, in my opinion. Being predictable isn't a bad thing, per se, because that usually implies reliability. However, you can still be a caring, reliable girlfriend while also being spontaneous to make things fun. However, it CAN lead to some bad things. If you're the one being spontaneous all the time, and the other person isn't, sometimes this leads to a fight. Keep in mind though that some people would like to be spontaneous, but simply don't know how to. It's time/energy-consuming, and you don't want to run out of ideas, so don't overdo it. You don't want to have two weeks of amazing surprises followed by months of head-scratching.
MN randomguy Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 I think sponenaety is a personal preference thing. It may be a case where opposites attract IMO.
D-Jam Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 I don't think about predictable or unpredictable. I think about if she's good to me or not...and if she's open minded to trying and doing new things. Predictable becomes bad when the person is stale and boring. When they won't go try a new restaurant, or see something they never saw before. A girl who only likes to go out drinking and says "no" to let's say a stage show or a cultural event...that's predictable in a bad way. Likewise, if she's unpredictable in that she plays games on whether or not she likes me or considers me a date or BF...if she keeps me guessing on where things stand or can't make up her mind...then that's also bad in my book. Predictable or unpredictable is really minute compared to if the person is open minded or not and if the person really loves and respects you or not.
Trialbyfire Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 The next time you see him, run right up close to him, stare into his eyes, start giggling, then run away. If that doesn't cause a reaction, I don't know what would.
Vertex Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 The next time you see him, run right up close to him, stare into his eyes, start giggling, then run away. If that doesn't cause a reaction, I don't know what would. This is very cute Hehehe, I had a huge smile on my face after reading this.
Author thisismystory Posted December 17, 2008 Author Posted December 17, 2008 Haha, I don't think she's referring to the "unpredictable" bad actions here. She's asking if it's better to be spontaneous or not In my opinion, spontaneity can be nice: 1. Surprises are nice because getting something good out of nowhere is great! 2. It shows you put premeditated thought into it, which shows you're caring/thoughtful. Usually, it's a sign that the relationship is in good shape, in my opinion. Being predictable isn't a bad thing, per se, because that usually implies reliability. However, you can still be a caring, reliable girlfriend while also being spontaneous to make things fun. However, it CAN lead to some bad things. If you're the one being spontaneous all the time, and the other person isn't, sometimes this leads to a fight. Keep in mind though that some people would like to be spontaneous, but simply don't know how to. It's time/energy-consuming, and you don't want to run out of ideas, so don't overdo it. You don't want to have two weeks of amazing surprises followed by months of head-scratching. haha yup. that's exactly what i meant. we're in an LDR, so i thought maybe i'd surprise him so he wouldn't get bored or something. i surprised my boyfriend with tickets to his favorite singer. and this singer doesn't usually have tours in the US (1 in 5 years). but my bf got pretty upset about it. he thought i was stupid for buying the tickets without asking him and that he didn't wanna owe me. so i thought maybe being spontaneous wasn't a good thing? but i know he likes unpredictable girls....i just don't know what is right =__= it's like i try to surprise him and it ended up bad.
Trialbyfire Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 This is very cute Hehehe, I had a huge smile on my face after reading this. Just throwing out an erratic action. Sponaneity can be a lot of fun. It can be big actions like a trip or small actions like where, when and how you make love. Like everything else, shake it up so no one gets bored.
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