iwanttolive Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 Do you feel there's a wall between both of you? Do you feel awkward? How do u break the wall?
BikerBeagle Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 A 'wall' indicates that there is something left unresolved in your previous relationship ...probably a lack of trust or faith in that person (especially if they were the dumper and you were the dumpee). Can it be fixed? ...maybe, with time and effort. Second chances take a lot of work, communication, and understanding from both people ...but most people simply go into it thinking they can "let the past be in the past", and it's simply not possible. You're gut instinct is telling you something is wrong (awkward), you should listen to it, figure out why, and attempt to fix it.
Lishy Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 I think second chances are extremely hard to pull off Loss of trust is the major factor
tommiw Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 I think second chances are extremely hard to pull off Loss of trust is the major factor Exactly. In my situation, even being friends with my ex is extremely hard (I'm the only one with feelings left)
loveisconfusing Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 If you want to get past that wall I would start doing things together that you both really enjoy that make you happy. I would try to go on a trip or something. If you really want it to work and get over the hump I would try to get over the negative things from the past and only focus on good things and what you have. Always holding onto the past and the negative things that may have happened will never let you advance in a positive way in the relationship.
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