ricardotorero Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 Hi It is just over 1 year since my partner last slept with him and 8 months since I found out. It has been up and down since then and I am still feeling a lot of resentment. For those who have been there and done/seen it, how am I likely to feel in the future? Will I still have surges of anger at 2 or 5 years? Thanks Ricardo
cyabye Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 I cannot speak for your situation but to this day and we will be separated for a year in Feb. I find I still have tons of anger and resentment for my STBXW's infidelities. Everything would be great and I am enjoying life and I would see or hear something to remind me of her actions. It ruins my good mood for a bit but it still ruins it. Something to think about and be prepared for. Cyabye
imagine Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 At eight months you are right on track for surging resentment. Triggers will continue to manifest this resentment. This is called "the rollercoaster ride". You typically may expect this to continue for two years after discovery. Absolute honesty will expedite the process. Checks and extraordinary precautions will also give peace of mind. There is literature on the subject. "After the affair" Dr Harley apparently is one such book. I strongly advise you to read the articles at marriagebuilders.com. Keep posting. Your sitch is pretty well mapped out.
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