DLUVLY Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 Me and my wife had a open relationship now we re trying to stop it but other peoples attachments are hard to end and no trust in our marriage anymore.But we are going to therapy trying to make it work. Should we just end it.Because of the jealousy issues and trust issues I feel like Im here just for the kids.
Geishawhelk Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 Oh, the perils of playing around!! Me and my wife had a open relationship now we re trying to stop it but other peoples attachments are hard to end Actually, they're not. They're very easy to end. You just do it. They're only hard to end when you actually don't WANT to end them. and no trust in our marriage anymore.But we are going to therapy trying to make it work. Should we just end it.Because of the jealousy issues and trust issues I feel like Im here just for the kids. What a mess. Do you want to save it? Do you BOTH want to save it? because it's going to take time, respect, TRUST communication, commitment and effort. if neither of you are prepared to really step up to the plate, then it's over.
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 Me and my wife had a open relationship now we re trying to stop it but other peoples attachments are hard to end and no trust in our marriage anymore.But we are going to therapy trying to make it work. Should we just end it.Because of the jealousy issues and trust issues I feel like Im here just for the kids. Exact same thing happened here. Once the door was open, it shattered everything and putting the pieces together was no more helpful than trying to glue a vase back together when you are given nothing but a box or random shards from that vase and several others. We did have to end it. We split for three years and did our own thing, but kept our family as our core from separate residences. Once the marriage part died and we put all that behind us, we found ourselves back together again starting something new. Completely new - not as in 'putting our marriage back together' but 'starting from scratch'. It can happen, but in our case it took a major trauma that ran the course of nearly a year to bring us back to this point. Its up to you, but sometimes it is better to walk away and let the marriage die and do your grieving, and then start over than it is to try to fix a dysfunctional mess.
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