luverly Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 If you were 25 would you date a very young looking 30 year old woman? What do you think of the older girl/ younger guy relationship?
Nemo Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 So you look like you've *just* turned 30? Like, this very minute?! Happy Birthday, by the way.
alphamale Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 If you were 25 would you date a very young looking 30 year old woman? if i was attracted and she was willing then why not? What do you think of the older girl/ younger guy relationship? i think its nice to have an "experienced" woman
Author luverly Posted December 14, 2008 Author Posted December 14, 2008 So you look like you've *just* turned 30? Like, this very minute?! Happy Birthday, by the way. lol. No I turned 30 in July, but thanks
Charles1978 Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 I'm 30 myself, but when I was 25... probably not.
carhill Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 Sure, and I'd date a 30 year old who looked like a 30 year old. Did it too, 25 years ago. Biggest age difference was 7 years (older); 46 when I was 39. Best kisser I ever met
Author luverly Posted December 14, 2008 Author Posted December 14, 2008 I'm 30 myself, but when I was 25... probably not. sigh...that's what I'm worried about. Everyone thinks I'm 23 or 24, so those are the guys that usually like me. I'm leaving the relationship I'm in because it's horrible. So I've started looking around. I talked to one guy online recently and I'm worried he won't talk to me since I'm older. Very frustrating.
Charles1978 Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 sigh...that's what I'm worried about. Everyone thinks I'm 23 or 24, so those are the guys that usually like me. I'm leaving the relationship I'm in because it's horrible. So I've started looking around. I talked to one guy online recently and I'm worried he won't talk to me since I'm older. Very frustrating. Nah... don't get frustrated. The girl I'm after is in her late 20's, but looks like she's 22 or so. 30 is not old. At this point in my life, I'd date any girl up to my age. I don't date older. It's just a preference. Now that I am 30, I wouldn't date a 35 year old. But this is only because I ultimately want to start a family. Having kids when the wife is over 35 is risky. But bottom line is... you aren't old. I'm 30... if you look 23 or 24, I'd probably be interested. You have good genes... be happy about it.
Gremio Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 If you were 25 would you date a very young looking 30 year old woman? What do you think of the older girl/ younger guy relationship? I am in my mid 20s and I prefer older women. I don't tolerate immaturity, which defines a good amount of women younger than me. I am different though. All of my friends are older except one, who is my age. One is 30, another 37 as an example. Last night I was told that my age was 31, way off from mid 20s.
tidalwave Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 If you were 25 would you date a very young looking 30 year old woman? What do you think of the older girl/ younger guy relationship? there is nothing wrong with an older woman. u just have to make sure your interests match... if they do then all should be well. i like older women because they seem to know what they want and play less games
Ross PK Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 If you were 25 would you date a very young looking 30 year old woman? What do you think of the older girl/ younger guy relationship? Yeah, as long as she looks over 18. I don't think there's anything wrong with an older girl/younger guy relationship. You may have less things in common because of the age gap, but it may still work. Then again you may have loads of stuff in common.
movingonandon Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 My 31 y/o ex dumped me for a 26 y/o loser - and apparently willing one. In my messed up youth I have dated much older woman. So, Instead of wondering if he'd get it on with you (he will), better ask yourself what the hell is wrong with you to contemplate hooking up with (most likely) a bonehead at the respecatble (in theory) age of 30
fivefive Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 Age is just a number. If a young lookin 30 yr old wanted to date me and I was 25 I wouldn't mind.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 I"m 36 and I date younger guys all the time. In fact, they are usually younger than me. The guy I'm dating right now is 4 years younger than me.
tidalwave Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 I"m 36 and I date younger guys all the time. In fact, they are usually younger than me. The guy I'm dating right now is 4 years younger than me. are you exclusively dating younger? why are you doing that?
melodymatters Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 LOL, interesting replies here folks ! My husband is sitting here beside me, he is 24. check out our wedding pic in my profile. We are very VERY much in love, and amazingly well matched. I sometimes feel like I have waited my whole life for this relationship. He is a wonderful stepfather to my daughter, a wonderful husband and help mate, a great floor mopper:D, and probably the sweetest, kindest, most romantic man I have ever met. BTW. I just turned 42 :bunny:
gd26 Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 At this point in my life, I'd date any girl up to my age. I don't date older. It's just a preference. I personally don't date men who ONLY date younger women. I find men like that a huge turn-off. It's like they will date women 10 years younger than them but not 2-3 years older. I don't have an issue with a few people's individual preferences, but a find a large percentage of men like this who won't date older women (not even older by a few years). That's just kinda messed up. It makes me think the man is chauvinistic, and just needs a woman younger than him because he needs her to be immature, so he can be in control. I do the online dating thing, and just delete profiles of men who only want younger women (even if I happen to be in his preferred age-range). I just have this feeling that the guy is shallow. I can't put my finger on the exact reason I feel this way... I might be wrong... but something in me just gets uncomfortable by a man who only likes younger women. I wish someone could explain if there is any legitimacy to my reasoning or not. I recently met a man who actually PREFERRED older women (though was open to women up to a few years younger than him). Although I am only a year younger than him, he was one of the best guys I ever met... very intelligent, sincere and wonderful. Another guy I met last year also preferred women up to 3 years younger than him and up to 7 years older (that was the age range specified)... and again, he seemed to be an awesome guy. I personally feel that if a guy can handle a woman a few years older than him, that speaks for his own maturity. Maybe I'm wrong, I don't know. I don't understand why we have these societal expectations that women should be younger than their husbands. We should be beyond that now, and not stuck on some stupid evolutionary ideals. Did you ever notice about how when women talk about 'older men'... they are usually referring to guys like 10 years older than them, not like 3-4 years. You don't hear a woman say that she's dating an older man if he's like 2-5 years older than her. But if a woman is like 3-5 years older than the guy, she'll be referred to as an 'older woman'. What is up with that? Even the OP, if she was a guy who asked about dating a woman 5 years younger, no one would really care... as a man dating a woman 5 years younger isn't a big deal (as long as she's of legal age). But it's an issue to her because she's the woman. It's just double standards that make no sense.
movingonandon Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 I personally don't date men who ONLY date younger women. I find men like that a huge turn-off. It's like they will date women 10 years younger than them but not 2-3 years older. I don't have an issue with a few people's individual preferences, but a find a large percentage of men like this who won't date older women (not even older by a few years). That's just kinda messed up. It makes me think the man is chauvinistic, and just needs a woman younger than him because he needs her to be immature, so he can be in control. I do the online dating thing, and just delete profiles of men who only want younger women (even if I happen to be in his preferred age-range). I just have this feeling that the guy is shallow. I can't put my finger on the exact reason I feel this way... I might be wrong... but something in me just gets uncomfortable by a man who only likes younger women. I wish someone could explain if there is any legitimacy to my reasoning or not. I recently met a man who actually PREFERRED older women (though was open to women up to a few years younger than him). Although I am only a year younger than him, he was one of the best guys I ever met... very intelligent, sincere and wonderful. Another guy I met last year also preferred women up to 3 years younger than him and up to 7 years older (that was the age range specified)... and again, he seemed to be an awesome guy. I personally feel that if a guy can handle a woman a few years older than him, that speaks for his own maturity. Maybe I'm wrong, I don't know. I don't understand why we have these societal expectations that women should be younger than their husbands. We should be beyond that now, and not stuck on some stupid evolutionary ideals. Did you ever notice about how when women talk about 'older men'... they are usually referring to guys like 10 years older than them, not like 3-4 years. You don't hear a woman say that she's dating an older man if he's like 2-5 years older than her. But if a woman is like 3-5 years older than the guy, she'll be referred to as an 'older woman'. What is up with that? Even the OP, if she was a guy who asked about dating a woman 5 years younger, no one would really care... as a man dating a woman 5 years younger isn't a big deal (as long as she's of legal age). But it's an issue to her because she's the woman. It's just double standards that make no sense. Too much words for nothing. I'm 32 and will not date an older woman than me (for long term, would happily hook up with Ms Robinson). When I find a woman whom I feel I have a long term future with, she will be at least 2 years younger than me, for purely physiological reasons. No babies after 35. Risks of late pregnancy are exagerated these days, but still, given a choice I will err on the side of a younger woman, so eat it with the chauvinism and all. It is unfair, but overall men age much better than women, hence why it is a lot more common for the woman to be a bit younger. It has nothing to do with being a chauvinist pig. We cannot completely put biology out of the equation.
Wicked Smile Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 Too much words for nothing. I'm 32 and will not date an older woman than me (for long term, would happily hook up with Ms Robinson). When I find a woman whom I feel I have a long term future with, she will be at least 2 years younger than me, for purely physiological reasons. No babies after 35. Risks of late pregnancy are exagerated these days, but still, given a choice I will err on the side of a younger woman, so eat it with the chauvinism and all. It is unfair, but overall men age much better than women, hence why it is a lot more common for the woman to be a bit younger. It has nothing to do with being a chauvinist pig. We cannot completely put biology out of the equation. Before I got married to my gorgeous wife of 5 years, I usually dated younger women. There was something about them not being too pressured about their internal clocks that gave me more of a buffer. Not all women, but quite a few of them adhere to this biological clock that tended to force things in a relationship rather than develop naturally. If the woman was gorgeous it doesn't really become a factor. My wife is actually 1 year younger than me which is odd because I usually dated women that were 5-6 years younger than myself. But that all changed when I fell head over heels in love with my wife. So if you're worried about the age....don't be. If he likes you then obviously you're attractive to him because with all the younger women around he picked you!
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