roxyness Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 long story short, boyfriend left me three weeks ago after two years. we were in love, shared everything, lived together, helped each other out and taught each other a lot. his family loves me, mom says i'm like her daughter, brother liked me, and it was just very great. then, he tells me he pretty much fell out of love, then tells me he felt too grown up, then tells me he felt married to me, then tells me he likes someone else, then i read in his journal that he left me for drugs and partying, and wasn't sure if he wanted me or the drugs [he doesn't do the drugs anymore when we reconciled our friendship, he said it wasn't the lifestyle he wanted anymore.] and he chose me, saying he wanted to marry me and be with me for life because partying and drugs wasn't worth it or whatever. i asked him about it when we talked another day, he said he was stoned when he wrote it, a drunken heart speaks a sober mind, so obviously i know he's so confused. by the way, he gave me all these different "excuses" on different days.. o.O anyway, we go to the same school. i'm hearing things about him flirting with some girl in school and vice versa, then he still likes this other girl or something, and he's telling me i'm still an option and how he loves me so much still. he was a loyal and committed guy in our relationship, and put 110% into it all [my depression, envy, and dependence didn't help, though] so it's not like i don't trust him, and i do want him back. we were friends, but it was too hard for me to cope with so i broke it off and i'm trying my hardest to sustain no contact. do you think this is the right thing to do, or should i inch my way in his life again so he doesn't forget about me? i know it won't last long with these two girls, seeing as he is very picky about who he likes [and these girls.. the way they dress and portray themselves from pics i've seen, i know it wouldn't last long, plus aries + virgo = nono.] he's the type of guy who makes impulsive decisions, and confuses himself a lot [surprisingly, he didn't question or confuse our relationship for a long time..hmm].. which is why i need to know what to do.. [the breakup that night was ESPECIALLY out of the blue, we were really happy together prior to it.] THANKS!
EmperorR Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 No contact will be the best in your decision, it sounds like from all his excuses etc. he's a confused individual, going No contact will show ihm what he's missing, and maybe his family will knock sense into him as well. However i'm not saying he will come back etc., but guys always make rash decisions and then regret them shortly. A while back my good friend dumped his girl, me and the rest of the guys told him he was a idiot for giving up a girl that good, and he crawled right back a few days later. But NC should be used to heal yourself, but it also make him probably miss you.
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