irishgirly Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 Im not really looking for advice but I just need to rant . My partner broke up with me in October after just over 1 year. We are both in university (same class, same course which makes it harder). The reason why we broke up is religion. He is a strict Baptist, I am of Roman Catholic background. I understand how important it is to him. It's important to me too, but I was never as religious as him. I respect his beliefs and never ever made him do anything he didn't want to. I feel at the moment that he'd only take me back if I became as religious as he. But to me, if you love somebody you would never have to change anything about yourself for them. To me, love is strong enough to overcome anything. Im hurt that he didnt sit down and talk to me about it at first instead of keeping it to himself. I feel we could have come to some kind of compromise. We never had any other issues (to my knowledge). I didnt expect the breakup. It was like a slap out of the blue. Anyway, there is more to the story. After our breakup he spent a lot time hanging around with a girl. They were/are just friends. I believe him. She was in a 3 yr relationship but they were having issues. She developed feelings for my ex and, also due to other reasons, broke up with her boyfriend. My ex was stressing over this because of the way it looked and also because of how I'd feel (I was very upset). Nothing happened between them to my knowledge. He says that she told him she liked him, but I suppose you cant deny that he does like her also. In the meantime, he met up with a Christian friend who asked him if he had broken up with me because I wasn't a Christian then why was he putting himself in the same trap by liking another non Christian girl. My ex went and told the girl that it would never work due to her not being a Christian, and she herself admitted she'd never believe in a God (though lately she has begun to read the Bible and take an interest). She then got back with her ex the next day. Throughout the last two months following the breakup, I have said and done many, many stupid things. I have cried, begged, pleaded - all the wrong things to do. My ex said he wouldnt rule out us ever getting back together, but at the moment he feels uncomfortable doing so, and feels that although some issues have been resolved, he doesnt want to put me through all this pain again 6 months later. He said he doesnt let me know how he feels incase he gives me hope. He said not to wait around. People reckon he is just letting me down gently and that we will never get back together. It was hard to see him everyday in class but I am able to be around him normally now and be friendly. But my moods go up and down. I am grateful that at the moment in college we have a 3 week holiday break. I am trying to cut contact for my own sanity for these 3 weeks and Im hoping I will return to college a much stronger person.
Geishawhelk Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 Yes, it is. But it's the ONLY thing that ever really works.
Author irishgirly Posted December 17, 2008 Author Posted December 17, 2008 Arggh, due to NC he is now popping up and asking why I am not talking to him and apparently he is worried & afraid I am being pushed away. ???
EmperorR Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 Arggh, due to NC he is now popping up and asking why I am not talking to him and apparently he is worried & afraid I am being pushed away. ??? Who cares what he thinks, number 1 you worry about yourself worry about healing yourself. He broke up with you, you owe him nothing. It's always funny how dumpers get when you go NC, when I went NC my ex told me to forget about us stop bothering her etc., starts texting me where I am and if I'm ok etc., I just ignored them.
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