CommonSense Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 Hi, everybody. My fiancee and I are fighting about an asinine situation. So here is what happened: My fiancee bumped into a high school crush the other day and I guess he now finds her attractive. She IMed me and said she had an idea for revenge, and me being full of spite, I loved it. Turns out my fiancee wants to go out on a date with him and make out with him to use and tease him. As a normal person, I wasn't thrilled with the idea, but to make a long story short, she is now pissed at me because I don't trust her and I'm over-reactting. My question is, who is in the wrong here? Am I for getting upset about my soon-to-be wife wanting to go on a vengeful date with a high school crush or is she because she is not comprehending that dating, regardless of the intention, when you're with someone, let alone engaged, is morally wrong? I just want to hear some outside perspectives, thanks for your time.
Davey McG Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 Do you seriously believe her? My friend, you are in for a surprise. Its not about revenge at all. You are not in the wrong and this is a MASSIVE red flag. You're right to not let her date while she's engaged to you. In fact, I would seriously reconsider marrying her before its too late.
tinogrrl Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 Huh!? If I am understanding this correctly, your fiance basically wants your permission to make out with another dude; and your refusal to grant her permission has angered her. See anything wrong with this picture? She should not want to be making out with other guys, regardless of the intention behind it!!! The whole situation just sounds so immature. I don't understand why you are spiteful, as this is a past situation that does not seem to involve you. (Well, presently it does!) This guy must have done something pretty awful to your fiance for her to want to get "revenge" this badly...
Explorer Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 Hi, everybody. My fiancee and I are fighting about an asinine situation. So here is what happened: My fiancee bumped into a high school crush the other day and I guess he now finds her attractive. She IMed me and said she had an idea for revenge, and me being full of spite, I loved it. Turns out my fiancee wants to go out on a date with him and make out with him to use and tease him. As a normal person, I wasn't thrilled with the idea, but to make a long story short, she is now pissed at me because I don't trust her and I'm over-reactting. My question is, who is in the wrong here? Am I for getting upset about my soon-to-be wife wanting to go on a vengeful date with a high school crush or is she because she is not comprehending that dating, regardless of the intention, when you're with someone, let alone engaged, is morally wrong? I just want to hear some outside perspectives, thanks for your time. Are you serious? Posts like this make me feel like I'm living in alternate reality by myself. Your FIANCE wants to have permission to cheat on you because she's revengeful? Hello????
zxcirce Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 it's not an asinine situation at all, it's a potential deal-breaker, i think!!! revenge-making-out my butt. she wants to feel wanted. she wants him. you have every right to say no.
Geishawhelk Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 If - and only If - this is for real, and she truly does just want to go out with him out of spite - then this is still good reason to dump her. Nasty little piece of work. How hurtful and mean can you get? Oh, just wait until she plots the same game against you, with her next BF.....!! (Because trust me, I don't think you guys are emotionally mature enough to take this anywhere.)
Author CommonSense Posted December 14, 2008 Author Posted December 14, 2008 Are you serious? Posts like this make me feel like I'm living in alternate reality by myself. Your FIANCE wants to have permission to cheat on you because she's revengeful? Hello???? I was just asking for different perspectives because I wasn't sure that was the "norm" nowadays because this is my first serious relationship and I like to keep to myself socially. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't losing my mind since she doesn't have a problem with this.
Gremio Posted December 14, 2008 Posted December 14, 2008 I've re-read the first post multiple times. It makes zero sense and it obviously a joke.
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