prettybaby Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 I'm wondering how people judge the quality of a first date. Should there be any kissing or physical moves involved? Certain topics to bring up or avoid? A minimum amount of hours? Particular dos and don'ts? Are there certain turn ons and turn offs for you? I'm more interested in first dates involving someone you already know a bit (not a perfect stranger). But feel free to share any stories/opinions about any situation.
canigetanswers Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 interesting qn...looking forward to answers of others.
Explorer Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 I'm wondering how people judge the quality of a first date. Should there be any kissing or physical moves involved? Certain topics to bring up or avoid? A minimum amount of hours? Particular dos and don'ts? Are there certain turn ons and turn offs for you? I'm more interested in first dates involving someone you already know a bit (not a perfect stranger). But feel free to share any stories/opinions about any situation. A sucessful first date for me would not necessarily mean that it would have to get physical. I would say if I'm attracted, interested and comfortable with the person and equally they are with me, that would be a total success.
indianlover Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 Aspects of a good first date for me; Good conversation Some kind of special connection / discovery of things in common A good date - ie: a meal plus an activity like walking, etc to continue the conversation (bonus points if creative place to meet) Flirting (but not excessive touching) No sexual innuendos A good end to the date - saying goodbye, what a great time,etc Finally a call back. That's a good date!
Author prettybaby Posted December 13, 2008 Author Posted December 13, 2008 A sucessful first date for me would not necessarily mean that it would have to get physical. I would say if I'm attracted, interested and comfortable with the person and equally they are with me, that would be a total success. oooh, well that sounds simple enough! I guess I'm just wondering what people's expectations generally are and what makes them decide the next day whether they would truly consider a second date or not. Because, feelings between the end of the first date and the next day can sometimes be different when everything has been digested after a good night's sleep.
Green Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 I think a good first date should end with a kiss or atleast an attempted kiss
Author prettybaby Posted December 13, 2008 Author Posted December 13, 2008 I think a good first date should end with a kiss or atleast an attempted kiss a kiss, as in cheek or lips?
Hollywood Hero Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 I'd say that a successful first date is if plans were made for a second date.
LovieDove24 Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 I actually just had the best first date ever last night. It had way more to do with the amount we had in common and the amount of chemistry than anything else. I think even if we had gone to sit on a rock for our date it would have went well. We went out to eat and then out to a tavern afterwards and talked for hours. I do think having a couple of beers on a first date is helpful...it helps ease the tension and spark good conversation. No getting drunk though of course. As far as kissing...well yes, there was some at the end of the night. To me quite honestly I think it is important. Otherwise it just feels like friends. I went on 4 dates with this other guy and he NEVER once made a move. That landed him directly in the friend zone. Sorry dude. Ugh, this guy last night was just confident and sexy and we shared so much in common. I think thats why it went so well.
Author prettybaby Posted December 13, 2008 Author Posted December 13, 2008 I'd say that a successful first date is if plans were made for a second date. Do you mean like: "this was fun! Let's do this again some time" ? or something like: "this was fun! Let's go out again next Friday, same time, I'll pick you up" ? lol
Hollywood Hero Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 Do you mean like: "this was fun! Let's do this again some time" ? or something like: "this was fun! Let's go out again next Friday, same time, I'll pick you up" ? lol By plans, I mean a set day at the least. Place and time can be discussed later on. Bottom line, if the first date is not a success, then you won't want to see the other person a second time.
indianlover Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 By plans, I mean a set day at the least. Place and time can be discussed later on. Bottom line, if the first date is not a success, then you won't want to see the other person a second time. I don't think set plans have to be made right away (gotta check my calendar right?) but at least saying you want to go out again and that'll you'll call plus actually calling soon after. As far as physical stuff - depends how you met the person. I think kiss on the lips is awkward/forward if the date was relatively short (2 hours). If it was longer (4 or 5) then the cheek is good, if its long and you knew the person before then the lips would be less awkward.
Hollywood Hero Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 I don't think set plans have to be made right away (gotta check my calendar right?) but at least saying you want to go out again and that'll you'll call plus actually calling soon after. I stand corrected. You are right. I just know that some people use the "I'll call you" excuse to be nice about not wanting to see the person again, but if a call is actually made.............
alphamale Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 I'm wondering how people judge the quality of a first date. if i get laid and/or a second date then its successful
Rebellious Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 If the date made you happy/pleased/excited then it was successful.
Trialbyfire Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 How do you define a successful first date? Convo was natural and relaxed.We both had a great time.He asks for date #2, the same night. If he does this in the middle of the first date, it's a highly successful first date.
Julesx0822 Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 Don'ts on the first date: Talking about Politics, meeting the family, Exes, problems at work, drunken behavior Do NOT get drunk Do not be too fussy (if the restaurant messes up the order, chill out, see how he/she reacts and offer to help, but don't be a pushy customer) Do's on the First date: Complement something like her hair, how nice she looks Demonstrate chivalry - open doors, be a gentleman Talk about something you are passionate about (maybe a case at work or a service project you were involved with, movies?) Find something in common - movies and music are always good for conversation. Before you decide on a kiss, you should try to be perceptive as to how the other person on the date feels. Is she flirting back, holding eye contact, playfully touching your hand when she laughs? Those would be good signs for a kiss, especially if she suggests a "next time" date. That's a definite in. If she seems guarded and looks down at her plate a lot or doesn't take to any of your conversation prompts... maybe see if she tries to kiss you. It usually will happen if she puts the keys in her door and opens it, and then turns back to you to say goodnight. Tip: Easy on the tongue. Don't slobber.
BlueEyedGirl Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 Hmmm to me a good first date would end with a strong desire from my side to see the guy again. I have had a lot of good coversation comfortable dates but didn't really had that feeling that I want to see him again. On the other hand I had few awkward sikence dates and I still longed to see the person again. A kiss is important, not a full on make out session but a non-platonic kiss. Otherwise I just feel like I have been on a date with my brother.
Geishawhelk Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 A successful first date is when I get home, change out of my glad rags, put my winceyette nightie on, make myself a cup of cocoa, and curl up on the sofa with the cat, call my best friend, and tell her all about it, then when the clock strikes ten pm, head for bed! I'm getting old, aren't I.....?
V.Vixen Posted December 13, 2008 Posted December 13, 2008 If I remember what one of those is like..... For me, successful means that there was great chemistry and I can't wait for date #2! There are no specifics other than that, because each dating experience is so different.
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